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This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of M This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend, advice columnist Maddy Court (a.k.a. Xena Worrier Princess) answers anonymous queries from lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders. Illustrated by comics artist Kelsey Wroten and based on Court's viral zine of the same name, this book features never-before-published letters and responses about first loves, heartbreak, coming out, and queer friendship—all answered with the warmth and honesty of the gay big sister you wish you had. • BY QUEERS, FOR QUEERS: This book was written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders. The questions reflect real experiences that aren't often represented in the media, and the answers offer an important reminder that loving ourselves takes patience, effort, and the support of our friends and communities. • EXCITING DEBUT AUTHOR: In 2018, Maddy Court made the leap from creating niche lesbian memes on Instagram to writing and distributing a series of zines. Never preachy or dismissive, Court offers advice that is sympathetic and straightforward—it's equal parts refreshing vulnerability and remarkable wisdom. • GORGEOUS ILLUSTRATION: Kelsey Wroten's art brings the letters to life, immersing the reader in all the joys and disappointments of the contributors who wrote in from all over the world. In addition to the traditional illustrations, each chapter features a paneled mini-comic that speaks to the different themes. • AMAZING GUEST EXPERTS: Because one queer cannot possible hold all the answers, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend also includes advice from an incredible roster of guest experts. Author and comedian Samantha Irby; musicians JD Samson and Ellen Kempner; and writers and activists Tyler Ford, Kalyn Heffernan, Lola Pellegrino, and Mey Rude all tackle questions on long-distance breakups, jealousy, love triangles, making friends, and more. Perfect for: • Lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders with questions about dating, friendship, and life • Fans of the Ex-Girlfriend zine series and followers of @Xenaworrierprincess • Fans of Kelsey Wroten's graphic novels and art


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This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of M This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend, advice columnist Maddy Court (a.k.a. Xena Worrier Princess) answers anonymous queries from lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders. Illustrated by comics artist Kelsey Wroten and based on Court's viral zine of the same name, this book features never-before-published letters and responses about first loves, heartbreak, coming out, and queer friendship—all answered with the warmth and honesty of the gay big sister you wish you had. • BY QUEERS, FOR QUEERS: This book was written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders. The questions reflect real experiences that aren't often represented in the media, and the answers offer an important reminder that loving ourselves takes patience, effort, and the support of our friends and communities. • EXCITING DEBUT AUTHOR: In 2018, Maddy Court made the leap from creating niche lesbian memes on Instagram to writing and distributing a series of zines. Never preachy or dismissive, Court offers advice that is sympathetic and straightforward—it's equal parts refreshing vulnerability and remarkable wisdom. • GORGEOUS ILLUSTRATION: Kelsey Wroten's art brings the letters to life, immersing the reader in all the joys and disappointments of the contributors who wrote in from all over the world. In addition to the traditional illustrations, each chapter features a paneled mini-comic that speaks to the different themes. • AMAZING GUEST EXPERTS: Because one queer cannot possible hold all the answers, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend also includes advice from an incredible roster of guest experts. Author and comedian Samantha Irby; musicians JD Samson and Ellen Kempner; and writers and activists Tyler Ford, Kalyn Heffernan, Lola Pellegrino, and Mey Rude all tackle questions on long-distance breakups, jealousy, love triangles, making friends, and more. Perfect for: • Lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders with questions about dating, friendship, and life • Fans of the Ex-Girlfriend zine series and followers of @Xenaworrierprincess • Fans of Kelsey Wroten's graphic novels and art

30 review for The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend: Advice on Queer Dating, Love, and Friendship

  1. 5 out of 5

    Althea

    A really valuable, heart-warming and affirming read for queer people of all ages! I absolutely loved the illustrations in this and the advice within is sure to resonate with all readers, no matter their sexuality or gender! Thanks to Netgalley and Chronicle Books for an e-ARC in return for an honest review!

  2. 5 out of 5

    Sasha

    Delightful! Read this in a day. Basically like reading the advice column in sweet queer teen magazine except those who write in range from being in their teens to their 40s. Lots of good wisdom in here, though definitely a few pieces of advice I disagreed with, but duh! We all deal with and interpret situations differently. Also the illustrations are lovely. 3.5 stars!

  3. 5 out of 5

    Anwen Hayward

    I really enjoyed this one. Most of the advice in it is heartfelt and sensitive, and the addition of guest experts to cover the more intersectional parts of the queer experience was an excellent idea (although some of the guest experts did seem a little more interested in self-promotion or, in one case, being quite unkind to the person who asked for advice; I would have liked a bit more editing in a few of those.) The range of topics covered was pretty enormous, considering the relatively small s I really enjoyed this one. Most of the advice in it is heartfelt and sensitive, and the addition of guest experts to cover the more intersectional parts of the queer experience was an excellent idea (although some of the guest experts did seem a little more interested in self-promotion or, in one case, being quite unkind to the person who asked for advice; I would have liked a bit more editing in a few of those.) The range of topics covered was pretty enormous, considering the relatively small size of this book, and I think most queer women or people of marginalised genders will probably recognise at least one of their own dating experiences in this one. Absolutely recommend this one for any queer woman or femme who's ever wondered if they're the outlier for sharing 8 ex girlfriends with their housemate, or who just wants to feel Seen (TM).

  4. 4 out of 5

    Zoe Jackson

    I’ve followed Maddy on Instagram for a couple of years and was excited to see this book pop up on NetGalley. In a book version of her zine series, the author answers questions from Queer women and non-binary people on love, life and different facets of moving through the world as an LGBT+ person. Her advice is heartfelt and clear, drawing on her own personal experiences. I appreciated the use of guest contributors to cover areas that they had more personal knowledge of, real effort has been made I’ve followed Maddy on Instagram for a couple of years and was excited to see this book pop up on NetGalley. In a book version of her zine series, the author answers questions from Queer women and non-binary people on love, life and different facets of moving through the world as an LGBT+ person. Her advice is heartfelt and clear, drawing on her own personal experiences. I appreciated the use of guest contributors to cover areas that they had more personal knowledge of, real effort has been made here to be intersectional and not to speak over the voices of different groups. Colourful illustrations throughout add to the collection and make it a real pleasure to read. I’d recommend this book to Queer women and non-binary people, especially those who are either feeling stuck in a rut or who are closeted/ newly out. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing me with an advance copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

  5. 4 out of 5

    Emma

    what a sweet and funny book with so many good pieces of advice that made me think about my own life! and the illustrations are so beautiful. maddy had answered my question in one of the ex-gf zines and it's really cool that her writing was helpful then and continues to be now, even when that question i asked years ago is so incredibly far from my life now! what a sweet and funny book with so many good pieces of advice that made me think about my own life! and the illustrations are so beautiful. maddy had answered my question in one of the ex-gf zines and it's really cool that her writing was helpful then and continues to be now, even when that question i asked years ago is so incredibly far from my life now!

  6. 4 out of 5

    Pearl

    I won this book as part of a goodreads giveaway that I entered because I thought the title was funny and I though the odds of me winning it were low. But I did so here we are. I had never heard of the zine or advice column that it was based off of but I had fun reading it. First off the book is very nice to hold, the little designs on the cover are raised and it’s very tactile. The art in the book is inventive and whimsical and really goes well with the contents of the book. The book can definitel I won this book as part of a goodreads giveaway that I entered because I thought the title was funny and I though the odds of me winning it were low. But I did so here we are. I had never heard of the zine or advice column that it was based off of but I had fun reading it. First off the book is very nice to hold, the little designs on the cover are raised and it’s very tactile. The art in the book is inventive and whimsical and really goes well with the contents of the book. The book can definitely be read piecemeal or straight through or thumbed through in search of specific advice. I read it straight through just because I knew I would forget to post this if I didn’t. The advice given throughout but the author or the various guest authors is pretty solid throughout. My main complaint being that some of the stories and thus subsequent advice were uber niche. There were a lot of more general but still specific stories who’s advice could be taken for a variety of situations. But some of the more niche stories kinda just lost me. Which is just possibly just a byproduct of how advice columns work but I digress. I didn’t really care for final story/advice combo, it felt like a weird way to end the book, but I absolutely loved the last illustration. It’s a fun book, I had a good time reading it and it will likely be a good reference book in the future

  7. 4 out of 5

    Sara

    A must-read, particularly for queer women and non-binary people! This book talks for itself - advice columns about love, life and queer existence. The inclusion of "guest speakers" is a great addition for inclusivity and allowed for the best advice-giving possible! If it won't help you personally (although, it probably will), it will at least give you a better insight to some problems other people may have, and think about how you could better interact with them. A must-read, particularly for queer women and non-binary people! This book talks for itself - advice columns about love, life and queer existence. The inclusion of "guest speakers" is a great addition for inclusivity and allowed for the best advice-giving possible! If it won't help you personally (although, it probably will), it will at least give you a better insight to some problems other people may have, and think about how you could better interact with them.

  8. 5 out of 5

    m.

    This was a cute book that helps give advise for sapphics in terms of dating from sapphics who are still in the closet to sapphics that have had well developed relationships.

  9. 5 out of 5

    Nikki

    After reading another review that said this was LGBTQ+ version of Ms. Manners, I was hooked. And, they were right! I loved the short stories, the advice, the amazing graphics. All of it is simply impeccable. It is something that I will keep as a reference and hand out as a recommendation. Thanks to #NetGalley and the publishers of #TheExGirlfriendofMyExGirlfriendIsMyGirlfriend for the ARC in exchange for the honest review.

  10. 5 out of 5

    Inês Lopes da Costa

    What first attracted me to this book was the humorous (to me at least) title. The book conveys exactly what the author promises: advice on queer dating. It's divided on six chapters that cover many topics that are usually on everyone's minds like crushes, coming out, heartbreak, family and friends and so on. A great choice on the author's part was to admit her shortcomings on specific subjects, recurring to guest experts to enrich and fulfil these knowledge gaps for a more complete and informed re What first attracted me to this book was the humorous (to me at least) title. The book conveys exactly what the author promises: advice on queer dating. It's divided on six chapters that cover many topics that are usually on everyone's minds like crushes, coming out, heartbreak, family and friends and so on. A great choice on the author's part was to admit her shortcomings on specific subjects, recurring to guest experts to enrich and fulfil these knowledge gaps for a more complete and informed reading experience. The idea that what is described is based on many people's experiences makes it all more relatable and personable. The illustrations were very cute and wholesome and the writing was clear and straightforward. However, despite this book valiant efforts, it falls short in my eyes in a deeply important aspect: Diversity. Don't get me wrong there was a lot of diverse stories, diverse backgrounds, diverse ages, but then again not enough. One or two stories about bisexual women and even so, one wasn't about a bisexual person per se; one story about a disabled woman, maybe three stories about non-binary, gender non confirming people, one or two with trans women, etc. I didn't catch any reference to stories that came from queer women of colour for example. Even if there were too few examples of diversity in my opinion their stories were there and for that I'm very pleased since it shows how diverse LGBT people are and even with shared experiences some struggles are more prominent within a specific group. Overall was a great experience and I look forward to it's publication and to more books about diverse queer women! I downloaded the e-ARC on NetGalley (thank you!)

  11. 4 out of 5

    Bailey

    The title is all too real. This book is like reading one of those magazine advice columns, except everyone who writes in to ask for advice is gay and the advice column writers are also gay and give advice that is both heartwarming and keeps it real. As a non-binary lesbian, I found this title really affirming and a great resource for queer women and non-binary people. The LGBTQ community is so cis gay male-focused, and this book is a great divergence from that norm that uplifts the unique struggl The title is all too real. This book is like reading one of those magazine advice columns, except everyone who writes in to ask for advice is gay and the advice column writers are also gay and give advice that is both heartwarming and keeps it real. As a non-binary lesbian, I found this title really affirming and a great resource for queer women and non-binary people. The LGBTQ community is so cis gay male-focused, and this book is a great divergence from that norm that uplifts the unique struggles queer women face—and gives some great advice in return. In addition to the author Maddy Court, there are also several guest contributors who add a bit of variety to the writing and shows the author's commitment to intersectionality and not speaking over or for groups she does not belong to. Additionally, Kelsey Wroten has beautiful illustrations throughout the book that really adds something to the aesthetic. I genuinely think this book is a great resource for all ages. As someone in my early twenties and out for over a third of my life, the section about coming out was not as helpful to me, but the sections on dating and heartbreak felt very poignant. This would particularly make a great gift for a young queer person, as I think this is a book someone could keep coming back to as their struggles and questions shift over time. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher, Chronicle Books, for the ARC in exchange for an honest review. This book releases in the U.S. on May 18, 2021.

  12. 4 out of 5

    Laura

    I love Maddy’s stuff on Instagram, and this is more of the same (funny and very queer), but she’s also very good at giving advice! Like many great advice columnists, she reveals a lot about herself as she does so. This book is relatable, funny, and heartbreaking, and it will be helpful to a lot of people. I wished I could highlight huge portions of it (I was reading it in Adobe Digital Editions, so I couldn’t). There’s so much about internalized homophobia and being awkward and insecure. Maddy i I love Maddy’s stuff on Instagram, and this is more of the same (funny and very queer), but she’s also very good at giving advice! Like many great advice columnists, she reveals a lot about herself as she does so. This book is relatable, funny, and heartbreaking, and it will be helpful to a lot of people. I wished I could highlight huge portions of it (I was reading it in Adobe Digital Editions, so I couldn’t). There’s so much about internalized homophobia and being awkward and insecure. Maddy is very understanding and gentle, even when chiding people for their choices — she often admits she probably would have done the exact same dumb or unhealthy thing. The illustrations and design of the book are also great. Also, there are guest experts! I won’t ruin who, but it’s very cool. My one critique is that, as fun as having guest experts is, sometimes their advice vibe is wildly different from Maddy’s, which can be a little jarring. I definitely kind of skimmed parts, but with a mind to hopefully return to them when they’re more relevant to me. I would totally buy this book to own a physical copy. Overall, this book would make a great gift for a baby gay -- or for yourself, even if you’ve been gay for ages! Thanks so much to Netgalley for the eARC.

  13. 4 out of 5

    mili

    8/10 A really insightful adorable book I’d recommend everyone to read. Not just queer people. Some of these questions are really random but most are very relatable and my younger self would’ve been very happy to find help within this book. I did overcome some of these problems one way or another by myself but I have a feeling not many people are lucky enough. These problems are very real and Maddie among 7 guest experts (and, of course, Kelsey as an illustrator) try their best to help as much as t 8/10 A really insightful adorable book I’d recommend everyone to read. Not just queer people. Some of these questions are really random but most are very relatable and my younger self would’ve been very happy to find help within this book. I did overcome some of these problems one way or another by myself but I have a feeling not many people are lucky enough. These problems are very real and Maddie among 7 guest experts (and, of course, Kelsey as an illustrator) try their best to help as much as they can (through their own experience or not). Sometimes it’s sad, sometimes it’s funny but it always is kind and helpful. Now that I don’t have similar problems anymore and couldn’t relate to them in this moment, I read this with happiness knowing what I did was right. And even if it wasn’t - nobody’s perfect, ey. The book made me especially grateful for having an amazing girlfriend (ily bb)* with whom I can talk about everything and anything. I think this book will got some people seriously thinking so, as I said in the beginning, I recommend it to everyone. ARC provided in exchange for an honest review. * yes, you, jess. don’t cringe too hard pls <3

  14. 4 out of 5

    Natalia

    “When‌ ‌you're‌ ‌in‌ ‌love‌ ‌for‌ ‌the‌ ‌first‌ ‌time,‌ ‌everything‌ ‌is‌ ‌THE‌ ‌MOST.‌ ‌Your‌ ‌ love‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌most‌ ‌profound.‌ ‌The‌ ‌sex‌ ‌you’re‌ ‌having‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌BEST.‌ ‌No‌ ‌ relationship‌ ‌will‌ ‌ever‌ ‌compare.”‌ This‌ ‌book‌ ‌was‌ ‌very‌ ‌informative,‌ ‌Maddy‌ ‌is‌ ‌a‌ ‌very‌ ‌talented‌ ‌writer.‌ ‌All‌ ‌the‌ ‌ questions‌ ‌asked‌ ‌and‌ ‌answered‌ ‌in‌ ‌this‌ ‌book‌ ‌feel‌ ‌very‌ ‌personal‌ ‌and‌ ‌ real.‌ ‌I‌ ‌don't‌ ‌think‌ ‌it‌ ‌matters‌ ‌what‌ ‌your‌ ‌sexuality‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌while‌ “When‌ ‌you're‌ ‌in‌ ‌love‌ ‌for‌ ‌the‌ ‌first‌ ‌time,‌ ‌everything‌ ‌is‌ ‌THE‌ ‌MOST.‌ ‌Your‌ ‌ love‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌most‌ ‌profound.‌ ‌The‌ ‌sex‌ ‌you’re‌ ‌having‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌BEST.‌ ‌No‌ ‌ relationship‌ ‌will‌ ‌ever‌ ‌compare.”‌ This‌ ‌book‌ ‌was‌ ‌very‌ ‌informative,‌ ‌Maddy‌ ‌is‌ ‌a‌ ‌very‌ ‌talented‌ ‌writer.‌ ‌All‌ ‌the‌ ‌ questions‌ ‌asked‌ ‌and‌ ‌answered‌ ‌in‌ ‌this‌ ‌book‌ ‌feel‌ ‌very‌ ‌personal‌ ‌and‌ ‌ real.‌ ‌I‌ ‌don't‌ ‌think‌ ‌it‌ ‌matters‌ ‌what‌ ‌your‌ ‌sexuality‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌while‌ ‌reading‌ ‌ this,‌ ‌the‌ ‌advice‌ ‌given‌ ‌could‌ ‌relate‌ ‌to‌ ‌anyone‌ ‌and‌ ‌also‌ ‌help‌ ‌people‌ ‌ understand‌ ‌the‌ ‌wide‌ ‌world‌ ‌of‌ ‌Lgbtqia+.‌ ‌It‌ ‌is‌ ‌very‌ ‌heartfelt‌ ‌with‌ ‌beautiful‌ ‌ illustrations‌ ‌throughout.‌ ‌At‌ ‌times‌ ‌it‌ ‌was‌ ‌amusing,‌ ‌funny‌ ‌and‌ ‌definitely‌ ‌ enjoyable‌ ‌the‌ ‌way‌ ‌Maddy‌ ‌and‌ ‌guest’s‌ ‌give‌ ‌advice.‌ ‌But‌ ‌still‌ ‌a‌ ‌very‌ ‌ serious‌ ‌read‌ ‌that‌ ‌had‌ ‌me‌ ‌gripped.‌

  15. 5 out of 5

    Gillian

    The Ex-Girlfriend of my Ex-Girlfriend is my Girlfriend is a book borne out of a queer zine that focuses on advice for LGBTQ+ folks. Organized in different chapters based on general themes with multiple Q&As in each section, this book reads like a compilation of advice columns on romance, identity, sex and friendship. Reading this made me appreciate being queer in all of its messy, complex, weird and beautiful ways. It also reminded me of all the ways we as queer and trans people have things so mu The Ex-Girlfriend of my Ex-Girlfriend is my Girlfriend is a book borne out of a queer zine that focuses on advice for LGBTQ+ folks. Organized in different chapters based on general themes with multiple Q&As in each section, this book reads like a compilation of advice columns on romance, identity, sex and friendship. Reading this made me appreciate being queer in all of its messy, complex, weird and beautiful ways. It also reminded me of all the ways we as queer and trans people have things so much harder than our cishet counterparts. At the same time, it provided me with hope and pride for all the ways in which we re-write the social scripts to find our forms of happiness. I appreciated how different questions were answered by different people, depending on their identity and levels of experience/expertise. While many heavy themes were explored throughout, the book remained light and hopeful!

  16. 5 out of 5

    Maddie Haughton

    I’m glad this book exists for a number of reasons. It is hard to know what to do in situations where you feel like you’re the only one struggling and that there is nobody who can relate to what you’re going through. This book proves that is not true and there are people out there who have not only been through similar situations, but who want to be there for anyone who is currently struggling. This book deals with complex emotions and sensitive subjects, and it’s the kind of book that I think ev I’m glad this book exists for a number of reasons. It is hard to know what to do in situations where you feel like you’re the only one struggling and that there is nobody who can relate to what you’re going through. This book proves that is not true and there are people out there who have not only been through similar situations, but who want to be there for anyone who is currently struggling. This book deals with complex emotions and sensitive subjects, and it’s the kind of book that I think every queer new adult should have the chance to read. This is a book that I want to have around to reference, and that I will recommend to my friends, since the advice given in it is thoughtful and comes from people with diverse experience. I received an eARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Julie

    It's hard to write a review for an advice column because it really speaks for itself - if you feel drawn to it then it is for you. It's also a bit weird to read something like this back to front but I felt an obligation to fully explore it since I got a copy before public release. I can say that the advice is incredibly thoughtful and the use of "guest experts" to respond to certain questions makes this more inclusive, which of course is one of the main points of a work like this. The illustrati It's hard to write a review for an advice column because it really speaks for itself - if you feel drawn to it then it is for you. It's also a bit weird to read something like this back to front but I felt an obligation to fully explore it since I got a copy before public release. I can say that the advice is incredibly thoughtful and the use of "guest experts" to respond to certain questions makes this more inclusive, which of course is one of the main points of a work like this. The illustrations really help add humor and lightheartedness as well. I would encourage anyone interested to pick this up even if they aren't dating or in a relationship, especially while the panoramic is still most certainly A Thing, because it is a connection to other people that might be hard to find right now and that can be meaningful in unexpected ways. Plus, the physical book is just really well made!

  18. 4 out of 5

    Liz

    The title is really what hooked me on this one because it is SO TRUE! In the queer dating world, everyone knows everyone and that is just how it goes! This was a well-done, short, self-help picture book on dating in queer spaces. Each chapter has a topic, and Maddy (and guest experts) answer questions from Maddy's followers. The questions have a large range: dealing with homophobic parents, combating lesbian death bed, making queer friends, confronting biphobic friends, making queer spaces more The title is really what hooked me on this one because it is SO TRUE! In the queer dating world, everyone knows everyone and that is just how it goes! This was a well-done, short, self-help picture book on dating in queer spaces. Each chapter has a topic, and Maddy (and guest experts) answer questions from Maddy's followers. The questions have a large range: dealing with homophobic parents, combating lesbian death bed, making queer friends, confronting biphobic friends, making queer spaces more accessible to trans women, etc. There is something in the book for everyone, but I would highly recommend it for "gay babies" or anyone trying to find themselves in their queer or lesbian identity! Thank you for this content, Maddy! Also, the illustrations are so amazing, Kelsey! And thank you to #NetGalley and #ChronicleBooks for the eARC of this book!

  19. 5 out of 5

    Kelleen Moriarty

    What a fun, easy read! This is such a darn good title for an advice book on queer dating, friendship, and love, I cannot even stand it. The writing is thoughtful, funny, and self-aware in a way that makes the reader feel both like they're talking to a trusted friend and a wise mentor. The advice skews to a younger audience (late teens, early twenties), and encompasses a wide range of topics and identities. The author even brings in guest experts to give advice on topics she doesn't feel fully equ What a fun, easy read! This is such a darn good title for an advice book on queer dating, friendship, and love, I cannot even stand it. The writing is thoughtful, funny, and self-aware in a way that makes the reader feel both like they're talking to a trusted friend and a wise mentor. The advice skews to a younger audience (late teens, early twenties), and encompasses a wide range of topics and identities. The author even brings in guest experts to give advice on topics she doesn't feel fully equipped to speak on and these guest experts added fresh tone and spark. Kelsey Wroten's illustrations are unique and delightful and all-together empowering. All-around a wonderful read for any queer looking to feel a sense of community in the beautiful chaos of life. Thanks to NetGalley and Chronicle Books for the ARC!

  20. 5 out of 5

    Alessa

    Wow, this book truly blew away my expectations. When I read the synopsis I knew I was intrigued and expected a kind, funny and accessible collection of answers to questions that many of us ask ourselves. And it definitely was that but it was so much more at the same time, it was earnest and nuanced, the book very clearly takes great care in its readers and offers them with the warm embrace of an older sister. A new and fresh insight into what wlw relationships are nowadays as well as the advice n Wow, this book truly blew away my expectations. When I read the synopsis I knew I was intrigued and expected a kind, funny and accessible collection of answers to questions that many of us ask ourselves. And it definitely was that but it was so much more at the same time, it was earnest and nuanced, the book very clearly takes great care in its readers and offers them with the warm embrace of an older sister. A new and fresh insight into what wlw relationships are nowadays as well as the advice needed to navigate them. One of a kind that will surely inspire a new wave of "growing up" books for the LGBTQIA+ community, you won't be able to put it down and once you finish it you'll feel like you were just in a sleepover with your friends. Definitely the non-judgemental advice that is sorely needed by many.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Lyric Trempe

    As a queer woman, I needed this book earlier. Told in such a casual way, this book feels like talking to your queer older sister. It's informative, uplifting, inspiring, honest, and overall just wonderfully done. The topics range from the queer dating scene, to heartbreak, to coming out, to balancing finances with your partner, and everything in between. It's told in the style of an advice column, and all of the responses are well thought out, honest, and well written. I cannot recommend this bo As a queer woman, I needed this book earlier. Told in such a casual way, this book feels like talking to your queer older sister. It's informative, uplifting, inspiring, honest, and overall just wonderfully done. The topics range from the queer dating scene, to heartbreak, to coming out, to balancing finances with your partner, and everything in between. It's told in the style of an advice column, and all of the responses are well thought out, honest, and well written. I cannot recommend this book enough if you are a queer femme person, nonbinary lesbian, or just looking to educate yourself. Not to mention the art is just beautiful. I can see myself coming back to the advice in this book for years and years to come.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Megan

    *I received an eARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review* There is a line from the author that I think sums up the purpose of this book perfectly: "even if you don't share someone's exact experiences, maybe you'll see your own life and feelings reflected back at you." Reading through this collection of letters from readers, and the intelligent, sympathetic and warmhearted advice from the author and guest experts, it is clear that it doesn't matter who you are or what your life is like *I received an eARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review* There is a line from the author that I think sums up the purpose of this book perfectly: "even if you don't share someone's exact experiences, maybe you'll see your own life and feelings reflected back at you." Reading through this collection of letters from readers, and the intelligent, sympathetic and warmhearted advice from the author and guest experts, it is clear that it doesn't matter who you are or what your life is like - other people recognise your feelings of love, heartbreak and confusion. Reading this book is like having a D&M with a friend who will give you sensible advice, a warm hug, and a pep talk before sending you back into the world.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Jessica

    I won this book as part of a goodreads giveaway. First off this book is pretty from the colors to the illustrations it was fun to turn each page to see what was lies in the next page. It is a very well put together book with some hard hitting topics of discussion. Even as a straight female, I am able to use the advice in this book for myself. As an alliance, it is eye-opening to read and comprehend some of the frictions that the queer community faces in relationships and life. This book is a gre I won this book as part of a goodreads giveaway. First off this book is pretty from the colors to the illustrations it was fun to turn each page to see what was lies in the next page. It is a very well put together book with some hard hitting topics of discussion. Even as a straight female, I am able to use the advice in this book for myself. As an alliance, it is eye-opening to read and comprehend some of the frictions that the queer community faces in relationships and life. This book is a great read for anyone to gain a new perspective and listen to a variety of stories you may relate to no matter your identity.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Mallory

    thank you so much to the publisher for providing me with an ARC through NetGalley! i'm a huge fan of kelsey wroten's illustrations, so as soon as i heard that a queer advice book was coming out with them included, i had to pick it up. first off, this book is so well designed, and the color palette is absolutely gorgeous. the questions inside are nuanced and real and the answers so well considered. i loved the inclusion of guest responders with experiences specific to the identities of the questi thank you so much to the publisher for providing me with an ARC through NetGalley! i'm a huge fan of kelsey wroten's illustrations, so as soon as i heard that a queer advice book was coming out with them included, i had to pick it up. first off, this book is so well designed, and the color palette is absolutely gorgeous. the questions inside are nuanced and real and the answers so well considered. i loved the inclusion of guest responders with experiences specific to the identities of the question-askers. the advice inside is heartwarming and hits home in many aspects. there are definitely phrases that i'll be saving and going back to at later times.

  25. 5 out of 5

    Geoff

    A fun, snarky, and heartfelt book of advice columns for Lesbians. I'm not the target audience for this book, but besides the fact that it has one of the best titles of any book I've read this year, it works for two reasons. First, it is fascinating to learn more about the social norms, stages, fears, hopes, in jokes, and expectations of a group of people that's different form me. And second, it's a great reminder for everyone that people who are different from you aren't that different from you. A fun, snarky, and heartfelt book of advice columns for Lesbians. I'm not the target audience for this book, but besides the fact that it has one of the best titles of any book I've read this year, it works for two reasons. First, it is fascinating to learn more about the social norms, stages, fears, hopes, in jokes, and expectations of a group of people that's different form me. And second, it's a great reminder for everyone that people who are different from you aren't that different from you. We are all human and love is love. **Thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for a free copy in exchange for an honest review.

  26. 4 out of 5

    Victoria

    *Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for providing access to this book in exchange for an honest review.* Got queer questions? Get queer answers! The writing pulled me right in, making me feel like I was getting advice from a close friend. Someone with my best interests at heart, but not afraid be brutally honest and tell me when I’m the one who needs to make a change. The various guest authors added a variety of perspectives and allowed the book to include a broader range of questions while *Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for providing access to this book in exchange for an honest review.* Got queer questions? Get queer answers! The writing pulled me right in, making me feel like I was getting advice from a close friend. Someone with my best interests at heart, but not afraid be brutally honest and tell me when I’m the one who needs to make a change. The various guest authors added a variety of perspectives and allowed the book to include a broader range of questions while maintaining the familiar tone. I found it quite comforting to read such a hopeful advice book, and I know that this book will be so helpful for many others!

  27. 4 out of 5

    Taz

    A fast, breezy, heartwarming read. Thoughtful questions answered with generous, compassionate advice. While I am mildly sad (as a gossipmongering Libra) that there weren’t very many messy gruesome schadenfreude-inspiring questions, I still enjoyed taking peeks into the lives of queer women across the world and thinking about what it means to exist as a WLW in this modern age. The lovely illustrations and neon color scheme made this even more fun and engrossing. None of the advice here felt parti A fast, breezy, heartwarming read. Thoughtful questions answered with generous, compassionate advice. While I am mildly sad (as a gossipmongering Libra) that there weren’t very many messy gruesome schadenfreude-inspiring questions, I still enjoyed taking peeks into the lives of queer women across the world and thinking about what it means to exist as a WLW in this modern age. The lovely illustrations and neon color scheme made this even more fun and engrossing. None of the advice here felt particularly applicable to me right now, but God knows it will help so many people overall. Congrats to Maddy, Kelsey, and the guest advice-givers on their achievement!

  28. 5 out of 5

    patri

    mega-inclusive, meaningfully instructive and sympathetic where it matters, a sapphic-specific solution-issuing mission that could surely stretch out into multiple installments. a wide batch of bright-eyed and blunt advice/warnings/words to the wise that a bunch of us will find bookmark-worthy, adorned with bubblegum-hued artwork to boot. thank you to netgalley and chronicle books for kindly passing on this arc! 💫

  29. 4 out of 5

    Léna

    a great read for baby gays (and confirmed ones) in need of guidance. reminds me of the teen magazines i used to buy but ten times more inclusive. i loved the guest writers there to takeover some of the more sensitive questions, and the vibrant illustrations. the emphasis on queer community was especially heartwarming, can't wait for the gay bars to reopen <3 I received an eARC through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review a great read for baby gays (and confirmed ones) in need of guidance. reminds me of the teen magazines i used to buy but ten times more inclusive. i loved the guest writers there to takeover some of the more sensitive questions, and the vibrant illustrations. the emphasis on queer community was especially heartwarming, can't wait for the gay bars to reopen <3 I received an eARC through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review

  30. 5 out of 5

    Cay

    Thank you to NetGalley and Chronicle Books for a free ARC in exchange for an honest review. This was a fun book that covered a variety of topics. Kelsey Wroten's illustrations were beautiful and complemented the text well. Maddy Court's voice shone through as she balanced humor with more sensitive topics and was never condescending. It was an enjoyable read and is a good resource for anyone interested in queer relationships. Thank you to NetGalley and Chronicle Books for a free ARC in exchange for an honest review. This was a fun book that covered a variety of topics. Kelsey Wroten's illustrations were beautiful and complemented the text well. Maddy Court's voice shone through as she balanced humor with more sensitive topics and was never condescending. It was an enjoyable read and is a good resource for anyone interested in queer relationships.

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