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Provocative, fearless, and dizzyingly uncensored, Mandy spills every secret she knows about dating, networking, comedy, celebrity, media, psychology, relationships, addiction, and the quest to find one’s true nature. She takes readers behind the scenes (and name names) as she relays her utterly addictive journey. Starting in 2005, Mandy picks up everything to move across th Provocative, fearless, and dizzyingly uncensored, Mandy spills every secret she knows about dating, networking, comedy, celebrity, media, psychology, relationships, addiction, and the quest to find one’s true nature. She takes readers behind the scenes (and name names) as she relays her utterly addictive journey. Starting in 2005, Mandy picks up everything to move across the country to Manhattan, looking for a fresh start. She is newly divorced, thirty-years-old, with a dream job at the New York Post. She is ready to conquer the city, the industry, the world. But underneath the glitz and glamour, there is a darker side threatening to surface. The drug-fueled, never-ending party starts off as thrilling…but grows ever-terrifying. Too many blackout nights and scary decisions begin to add up. As she searches for the truth behind the façade, Mandy realizes that falling in love won’t fix her—until she learns to accept herself first. This is a true New York fairy tale brought to life—Sex and the City on acid. Perfect for when “you feel stuck in some way and wish to become unstuck” (Caroline Kepnes), you’all soon see why Unwifeable is one of the best reviewed, most beloved memoirs of the year.


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Provocative, fearless, and dizzyingly uncensored, Mandy spills every secret she knows about dating, networking, comedy, celebrity, media, psychology, relationships, addiction, and the quest to find one’s true nature. She takes readers behind the scenes (and name names) as she relays her utterly addictive journey. Starting in 2005, Mandy picks up everything to move across th Provocative, fearless, and dizzyingly uncensored, Mandy spills every secret she knows about dating, networking, comedy, celebrity, media, psychology, relationships, addiction, and the quest to find one’s true nature. She takes readers behind the scenes (and name names) as she relays her utterly addictive journey. Starting in 2005, Mandy picks up everything to move across the country to Manhattan, looking for a fresh start. She is newly divorced, thirty-years-old, with a dream job at the New York Post. She is ready to conquer the city, the industry, the world. But underneath the glitz and glamour, there is a darker side threatening to surface. The drug-fueled, never-ending party starts off as thrilling…but grows ever-terrifying. Too many blackout nights and scary decisions begin to add up. As she searches for the truth behind the façade, Mandy realizes that falling in love won’t fix her—until she learns to accept herself first. This is a true New York fairy tale brought to life—Sex and the City on acid. Perfect for when “you feel stuck in some way and wish to become unstuck” (Caroline Kepnes), you’all soon see why Unwifeable is one of the best reviewed, most beloved memoirs of the year.

30 review for Unwifeable: A Memoir

  1. 5 out of 5

    Lauren Salisbury

    I received this book in a Goodreads giveaway. And I wish I hadn't. I've tried to write this review in multiple ways but every time I try it comes out meaner than the last. I'm not sure this version will be any better but I swear I'm trying. This book is full of problems and woes that I cannot relate to. It is full of problems that no woman I know could relate to. Though other reviews seem to point to some sense of a relatable cache of "problems women go through" I think they more likely mean "probl I received this book in a Goodreads giveaway. And I wish I hadn't. I've tried to write this review in multiple ways but every time I try it comes out meaner than the last. I'm not sure this version will be any better but I swear I'm trying. This book is full of problems and woes that I cannot relate to. It is full of problems that no woman I know could relate to. Though other reviews seem to point to some sense of a relatable cache of "problems women go through" I think they more likely mean "problems upper middle class white women go though." This memoir reads like a caricature of white girl self-pity with a heavy dose of name dropping, drunken sexual encounters. The writing style itself is functional but gets lost in the convoluted narrative arc that highlights--rather than personal growth--a consistent trend of first world problems wherein Stadtmiller attempts to come across as an everywoman but instead secures her place as an unrelatable person who happens to be a proficient writer. I slogged through her various "starfucker" anecdotes and horrifyingly repetitive nights of binge drinking for little reward. Though I didn't need Stadtmiller to be likeable or her book to point out any great human truth, I did need there to be a reason to read. After much effort spent searching, it turns out there just isn't one.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Sasha Brown-Worsham

    I loved this book. So honest and raw and beautiful. It made me want to spend even more time hearing Mandy muse on life. The writing is gorgeous, too. Just a complete winner. Don't miss it. I loved this book. So honest and raw and beautiful. It made me want to spend even more time hearing Mandy muse on life. The writing is gorgeous, too. Just a complete winner. Don't miss it.

  3. 4 out of 5

    Up All Night With Books

    ***ARC provided for honest review*** I’m rarely at a loss for words, but I find it difficult to put into words how I feel about Mandy Stadtmiller’s memoir, Unwifeable. At first blush (or second or third), this feels like a tawdry tell-all. Mandy does not mince words or descriptions of her life in NYC following her divorce. Parts of Unwifeable are so in your face that I felt like a voyeur reading it. Like it was a car crash or a train wreck, but I just couldn’t look away. Other parts are so poignan ***ARC provided for honest review*** I’m rarely at a loss for words, but I find it difficult to put into words how I feel about Mandy Stadtmiller’s memoir, Unwifeable. At first blush (or second or third), this feels like a tawdry tell-all. Mandy does not mince words or descriptions of her life in NYC following her divorce. Parts of Unwifeable are so in your face that I felt like a voyeur reading it. Like it was a car crash or a train wreck, but I just couldn’t look away. Other parts are so poignant and sad that I wish I was her friend and I could just wrap her in a big hug and tell her I was sorry she was going through this. Mandy Stadtmiller is a talented writer and comedienne and I’m happy I pushed through the uncomfortable bits. If we are all honest with ourselves, we have done things we are not proud of, but we don’t regret them because they bring us to where we are today. Mandy’s Unwifeable follows the trajectory of her discovery of this. She lived her life as if she had no fear, accepting every dare, every challenge, being “in your face” fearless, but was in fact just as insecure and unsure as the rest of us. She just acted it out in such a unabashed way. This book is brazen. It is in your face. It is unapologetic. Just like her life. And, yet, it is heartfelt and hopeful. Just like her life. I highly recommend Unwifeable, but be warned. It may make you feel uncomfortable, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. 4.5 Stars

  4. 4 out of 5

    Vanessa Botelho

    This is the most Raw and honest Memoir I have ever read. This book took so much courage and strength to write and I applaud the author for being so honest. I found this to be a very relatable book to many women and the struggles we go through in our lives. This book gives women hope for a better tomorrow. Once I picked up this book and started reading I was super interested and felt a connection with the author even though we have never met. I felt like most women reading this book will feel the This is the most Raw and honest Memoir I have ever read. This book took so much courage and strength to write and I applaud the author for being so honest. I found this to be a very relatable book to many women and the struggles we go through in our lives. This book gives women hope for a better tomorrow. Once I picked up this book and started reading I was super interested and felt a connection with the author even though we have never met. I felt like most women reading this book will feel the same, feel a connection with Mandy because we have all at some point fought a losing battle or are still fighting these battles and this book just gives us hope. At certain points during reading I felt so much for Mandy and her struggles. This is a book I will be recommending to a few of my girlfriends. Thank you so much for this honest and true memoir Mandy Stadtmiller.

  5. 5 out of 5

    Lisa

    "I am unloveable, I am unwifeable. I am a failure. I am not worth it." Wow - when I came across this passage in the book I was stunned because of the raw authenticity of it and also because I could 100% relate to the author. This is a memoir that will touch your life because it is REAL and profound and very very funny in parts. I could not put this book down once I started reading it. I so appreciate the author sharing her life with her readers especially with the details that she shares. While "I am unloveable, I am unwifeable. I am a failure. I am not worth it." Wow - when I came across this passage in the book I was stunned because of the raw authenticity of it and also because I could 100% relate to the author. This is a memoir that will touch your life because it is REAL and profound and very very funny in parts. I could not put this book down once I started reading it. I so appreciate the author sharing her life with her readers especially with the details that she shares. While this is a memoir and not technically a self-help book, I think the book will help people because it gives voice to things that we all think and feel but maybe don't have the courage to face head on. I appreciated hearing everything the author did in her life to seek change and I love the Free Therapy this book affords me! This is a must read! I was given a free copy of this book to read from Net Galley in exchange for an honest review.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Debbi DuBose

    I was fortunate to win an ARC of: UNWIFEABLE - A MEMOIR by Mandy Stadtmiller through a Goodreads Giveaway and Gallery Books. I have to admit this: when I started this Memoir; I wasn't sure that it was a book I wanted to read. MY FIRST OPINION WAS UNEQUIVOCALLY MISGUIDED!! Ms Stadtmiller pours her heart and soul into writing her Memoir which takes place during the decade of her 30's. It begins with her move to NYC to take a position to write for THE POST. She's ecstatic at her good fortune and fi I was fortunate to win an ARC of: UNWIFEABLE - A MEMOIR by Mandy Stadtmiller through a Goodreads Giveaway and Gallery Books. I have to admit this: when I started this Memoir; I wasn't sure that it was a book I wanted to read. MY FIRST OPINION WAS UNEQUIVOCALLY MISGUIDED!! Ms Stadtmiller pours her heart and soul into writing her Memoir which takes place during the decade of her 30's. It begins with her move to NYC to take a position to write for THE POST. She's ecstatic at her good fortune and finds an apartment with another couple. Every evening is filled with lusty drunken parties that eventually will seem perverse. Mandy will keep telling herself things like: BUT.....EVERYONE drinks (why can't I drink like they do?); EVERYBODY has sex (why do I keep having sex that's raunchy and meaningless?); and I AM EMBARRASSED BY WHAT I DO, YET...... WHY DO I CONTINUE TO KEEP DOING WHAT SHAMES ME? Once Mandy arrives at this point in her life......She can decide to make changes OR NOT!!! Mandy hates the feeling she gets from doing the wrong thing. " It's a debilitating kind of perfectionism....that I stubbornly stick to....so I can avoid the shame of having to admit I screwed up in the first place." (I could certainly relate to this!) Then one day, she realizes that all the time she has spent looking for a soulmate was a waste of her energy. MANDY REALIZES SHE'S HER OWN SOULMATE! She doesn't need someone else to make her whole. She does need to develop the physical, intellectual, and spiritual aspects of Mandy to become entirely full. Although I have not lived all aspects of Mandy's life; I could totally relate to her! By the end of this Memoir, I was Mandy's biggest cheering fan! This is a wonderfully heartfelt book that I rated 5 stars. Everyone should read this honest and true-to-life Memoir. I promise that you will catch glimpses of yourself in these pages, just as I did. Read it to find out what Mandy does to become her new and fantastically beautiful self!!! Keep going forward Mandy....I'm with you in spirit all the way!

  7. 4 out of 5

    Zibbernaut

    I got sent an ARC of this by Goodreads because I won a giveaway, so I was thrilled to read the free book. The version I had included a few spelling mistakes, but overall I don't think the book will change much from the version I read. This book is raw, as many other people have said already, and honestly I was surprised the depths that the story devolved into. But at the same time, I wasn't startled by it. Mandy tells the story in a way that eases you into even the most depraved moments. She's a I got sent an ARC of this by Goodreads because I won a giveaway, so I was thrilled to read the free book. The version I had included a few spelling mistakes, but overall I don't think the book will change much from the version I read. This book is raw, as many other people have said already, and honestly I was surprised the depths that the story devolved into. But at the same time, I wasn't startled by it. Mandy tells the story in a way that eases you into even the most depraved moments. She's an incredibly good storyteller, and I'm definitely glad I read the book even though I had never heard of her before. The journey she describes is deep and honest. We follow her through the worst parts of her life, and we look into her childhood to get insight into why she turned out the way she did. We watch her grow into a woman who is not perfect, but is on the road to recovery . I think this novel will have a strong impact on any who read it. My only critique would be that she name drops a lot, which is I suppose what she's trained for in her line of work, but I was a bit exasperated by some of it if the person mentioned didn't even speak to her or affect anything. This was the first novel I've ever annotated, so I wrote my reactions and thoughts in the margins. I think in this case it added to the experience, and I'm hoping it will add to whoever's experience I give the book to later.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Jessica Delfino

    I love everything that Mandy writes because her heart is a faucet left on and what comes out is a pure, cold, fresh drink when your mouth is full of sand. She gets into the cracks of your spirit and sits there and you find yourself thinking her words days, weeks, months, years later. She is one of those writers who changes you--you don't see the world the same anymore after reading what she wrote. Unwifeable hit me the same way other things I've read by her have, but maybe a little bit harder, b I love everything that Mandy writes because her heart is a faucet left on and what comes out is a pure, cold, fresh drink when your mouth is full of sand. She gets into the cracks of your spirit and sits there and you find yourself thinking her words days, weeks, months, years later. She is one of those writers who changes you--you don't see the world the same anymore after reading what she wrote. Unwifeable hit me the same way other things I've read by her have, but maybe a little bit harder, because I could relate to her stories and her heartbreak and her joy so hard, and I really want her to win in these chapters, even more than in some of her other stories where her floundering was more fitting. Unlike some dumb characters in movies or TV shows or other books that you don't care about, you want to root for Mandy, and you are compelled to. Her vulnerability is too sweet and honest and aching for you not to. And she's funny! This book is a must read for anyone who's ever gone up one side of love and down the other, loitered on the edges or only watched from afar. It's really for any human with a soul.

  9. 5 out of 5

    Rebecca

    A big thank you to Simon & Schuster Canada for sending along a review copy of this book. Fans of Cheryl Strayed and Stephanie Klein will enjoy this raw memoir that touches on everything from alcoholism and binge eating to sexual addiction. I wasn't familiar with the author and so when I glanced at the pink cover and title (I completely missed the cigarette on the cover), I expected some saccharine, cringey chick lit romance thing. Instead, I was surprised at how relatable and honest Stadtmiller A big thank you to Simon & Schuster Canada for sending along a review copy of this book. Fans of Cheryl Strayed and Stephanie Klein will enjoy this raw memoir that touches on everything from alcoholism and binge eating to sexual addiction. I wasn't familiar with the author and so when I glanced at the pink cover and title (I completely missed the cigarette on the cover), I expected some saccharine, cringey chick lit romance thing. Instead, I was surprised at how relatable and honest Stadtmiller's writing is, especially when describing her journey with various self-destructive behaviours and undeserved self-loathing all the way to self-acceptance. I'm so glad that she actually goes into detail about some very personal roadblocks and all of the ups and downs (especially the downs) rather than sugarcoating the outcome as some writers might have done. A quick, witty and touching read.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Debbie Dunning

    This book knocked the wind out of me -- Mandy's story combined with her self-awareness and ability to touch the reader's emotional nerves make hers such a fresh and refreshing voice. Her soul-baring confessions made me remember choices and feelings of my own that I've never been brave enough to put into words. This has got to be one of the hottest books of the year -- I think that every woman should read it. Her life experiences are unique and universal at the same time. At times you wonder how This book knocked the wind out of me -- Mandy's story combined with her self-awareness and ability to touch the reader's emotional nerves make hers such a fresh and refreshing voice. Her soul-baring confessions made me remember choices and feelings of my own that I've never been brave enough to put into words. This has got to be one of the hottest books of the year -- I think that every woman should read it. Her life experiences are unique and universal at the same time. At times you wonder how she survived such a fast life in Manhattan media and society while encumbered by such powerful self-destructive impulses. The title tells you how hard she judged herself, the way we all do at times. But spoiler alert, there's a very happy ending, this is a true love story -- it made me cry real tears, and I wanted more. Gonna buy the audio book because this is worth revisiting more than once.

  11. 4 out of 5

    Rachel Kramer Bussel

    It's rare to read a dating memoir that doesn't end with a sweeping happily ever after, where all the narrator's struggles were worth it because they found true love. Unwifeable follows a different model, even though former New York Post reporter Mandy Stadtmiller does find love. This is not a book about finding "The One." It's a book about gossip, both the business and the name-dropping kind woven throughout, ambition, journalism, New York, lust, drugs, addiction and eventually slowing down enou It's rare to read a dating memoir that doesn't end with a sweeping happily ever after, where all the narrator's struggles were worth it because they found true love. Unwifeable follows a different model, even though former New York Post reporter Mandy Stadtmiller does find love. This is not a book about finding "The One." It's a book about gossip, both the business and the name-dropping kind woven throughout, ambition, journalism, New York, lust, drugs, addiction and eventually slowing down enough to appreciate not the flashy kind of love, or the relentless negging by her ex, but a more steady, partnership kind. This is an easy read that you can tear through, with cameos by Courtney Love and Aaron Sorkin and Marc Maron and other familiar names, but I found its takeaway much deeper. I've read a lot of dating memoirs and a lot of addiction memoirs and while this one definitely has its romantic and drug-fueled rock bottoms, it's not at all formulaic. Stadtmiller boldly shares some of her most shameful moments, both drunken antics and emotional lows, including staying with an ex who was ashamed to be mentioned by her in her writing. By doing so, she offers up a read that I am pretty sure will be familiar to any woman (and likely other genders) who's at all dipped their toes into the dating pool.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Jenna Whalen

    I received this book as a Goodreads giveaway. It's refreshing how open, raw, and honest Mandy Stadtmiller is in her memoir. She could have easily glossed over parts of her life to make herself look better and still have a good book, yet she chose to write about it all. She is open with her problems, mental health issues, and therapy. It's wonderful seeing someone write so openly about all of that. I felt like Mandy was one of my friends... I was rooting for her throughout the book and many times I received this book as a Goodreads giveaway. It's refreshing how open, raw, and honest Mandy Stadtmiller is in her memoir. She could have easily glossed over parts of her life to make herself look better and still have a good book, yet she chose to write about it all. She is open with her problems, mental health issues, and therapy. It's wonderful seeing someone write so openly about all of that. I felt like Mandy was one of my friends... I was rooting for her throughout the book and many times wanted to shake her and say, "what are you doing?!" Even with all the things that happen where you wonder what she's thinking, it feels as if all of it was necessary for Mandy to go through it to get to where she is today. This book made me feel aghast, incredulous, made me laugh, and most of all made me want the best for Mandy and for her to become her best and healthiest self.

  13. 5 out of 5

    Ann Colette

    Based on the cover art, I was worried that this book would be a 300 page Carrie Bradshaw column. Turns out Stadtmiller is a hilarious writer with more than enough dishy anecdotes and celebrity gossip to make this a highly entertaining read. It's also emotionally raw and hard to read at parts, with the pain just as well expressed. Based on the cover art, I was worried that this book would be a 300 page Carrie Bradshaw column. Turns out Stadtmiller is a hilarious writer with more than enough dishy anecdotes and celebrity gossip to make this a highly entertaining read. It's also emotionally raw and hard to read at parts, with the pain just as well expressed.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Michelle Arredondo

    Okay....so little known fact about me: I am a reality show junkie. Bravo being my channel of choice...you will find me watching anything from something with Housewives, something about a certain city and the most popular socialites of that city....reality t.v anything....I am all for it. Sometimes I like a book that provides that much pleasure and more. This book was it. Unwifeable: A Memoir by Mandy Stadtmiller is titillating, pleasing, salacious, raunchy, raw, witty, and honest. From start to Okay....so little known fact about me: I am a reality show junkie. Bravo being my channel of choice...you will find me watching anything from something with Housewives, something about a certain city and the most popular socialites of that city....reality t.v anything....I am all for it. Sometimes I like a book that provides that much pleasure and more. This book was it. Unwifeable: A Memoir by Mandy Stadtmiller is titillating, pleasing, salacious, raunchy, raw, witty, and honest. From start to finish I could not get enough. Reading like pages right out of the most intriguing contemporary fiction books....this memoir packs a satisfactory punch. A divorcee with a lot to talk about...life in New York City....a woman baring her soul in the funniest way....YES, PLEASE!! Did author Mandy Stadtmiller write any more books?? I am on the prowl for another Stadtmiller read. Thanks to Mandy Stadtmiller, Gallery Books, and to Goodreads for this free giveaway. I received the book. I read the book. I have reviewed this book voluntarily and honestly.

  15. 5 out of 5

    Derek Milman

    An absolute un-put-down-able, laugh-out-loud, dizzying, breathtaking masterpiece. Stadtmiller's voice is as sharp and gleaming as a surgical scalpel. The memoir is fearless, taking on some tough subjects, tackling some difficult questions, and never afraid to show its dark side. A soon-to-be modern dating & romance classic! Not to be missed. An absolute un-put-down-able, laugh-out-loud, dizzying, breathtaking masterpiece. Stadtmiller's voice is as sharp and gleaming as a surgical scalpel. The memoir is fearless, taking on some tough subjects, tackling some difficult questions, and never afraid to show its dark side. A soon-to-be modern dating & romance classic! Not to be missed.

  16. 5 out of 5

    Hannah Orenstein

    I couldn't put this down! If you ever watched Sex and the City and thought, "Huh, what is it like writing about your relationships?" — you need to read this book. Mandy explores how dating in the public eye transformed her relationship with men, alcohol, and herself. I couldn't put this down! If you ever watched Sex and the City and thought, "Huh, what is it like writing about your relationships?" — you need to read this book. Mandy explores how dating in the public eye transformed her relationship with men, alcohol, and herself.

  17. 5 out of 5

    Christina

    Unwifeable is an unflinchingly honest memoir detailing Mandy Stadtmiller’s drug, booze and sex filled New York City life. That sentence is horribly simplistic, and doesn’t do the book any justice, but is the bare bones gist of the tell-all. And I couldn’t put it down. Mind you, I read most of it with my eyebrows up somewhere around my hairline, and let me tell you…I am no prude. Stadtmiller worked for the New York Post, xoJane, New York Magazine, and assorted other organizations as a journalist, Unwifeable is an unflinchingly honest memoir detailing Mandy Stadtmiller’s drug, booze and sex filled New York City life. That sentence is horribly simplistic, and doesn’t do the book any justice, but is the bare bones gist of the tell-all. And I couldn’t put it down. Mind you, I read most of it with my eyebrows up somewhere around my hairline, and let me tell you…I am no prude. Stadtmiller worked for the New York Post, xoJane, New York Magazine, and assorted other organizations as a journalist, and has also done comedy work over the years. This woman has seen and done some crap. The lady balls it took for this woman to say, yeah…I had a problem with sex. I was abused when I was young, and had a skewed idea of what sex was all about, and it permeated my adult life up to a point…and this is what I did with it. Yeah, I had a major problem with drugs and alcohol. I had a lot of fun, but I also did a lot of stupid things. Here they are for the world to see. I’m going to put it all out there on paper for public consumption, and I’m going to do it with NO shame. I mean, the candor Stadtmiller shows in her writing is something I don’t think I’ve ever really seen in a memoir, or at least not one with this sort-of content. It has that…I don’t want to say dispassionate, because that’s not really the word I’m looking for…matter-of-fact maybe? We’ll go with that. This memoir is written in a matter-of-fact style that almost reminds me of Jeannette Walls, had she been writing about sleeping with two pilots at the same time after doing a crazy amount of drugs. It is brutally honest, and yes…some might say it was like a name-dropping train wreck. But I saw the woman behind the unhealthy behavior, and how she lit up when she actually DID start getting healthy and fell in love. And I was rooting for her…SO HARD. If you’re into tell-all, celeb style, New York City type stories, definitely put this on your list. But I’d also say, consider reading this one if you are looking for a very real and raw book about someone coming to grips with abuse and dysfunction. Because that doesn’t look the same for everyone, and we all cope in different ways. Big thanks to Booksparks for sending this book my way! Full review at https://www.candidchristine.com/home/...

  18. 5 out of 5

    Hillary Nelson

    As a long time fan of Mandy, I was super excited to read this and it did not disappointment. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you may cringe but you will enjoy this and walk away feeling, at least a little bit, more hopeful. I loved this book and will be returning to it again in the future. So many great nuggets that one read isn't enough. As a long time fan of Mandy, I was super excited to read this and it did not disappointment. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you may cringe but you will enjoy this and walk away feeling, at least a little bit, more hopeful. I loved this book and will be returning to it again in the future. So many great nuggets that one read isn't enough.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Janilyn Kocher

    Unwifeable is a narrative of a woman hell bent on self destruction. She drank herself into stupors, had raunchy sexual escapades, and doped up on drugs and then wrote all about it for the NY Post. It's also sad that Stadtmiller valued herself so little that she imbibed in the dissolute rituals. In the end, she turns it around and finds her salvation, in more ways than one. Unwifeable is a narrative of a woman hell bent on self destruction. She drank herself into stupors, had raunchy sexual escapades, and doped up on drugs and then wrote all about it for the NY Post. It's also sad that Stadtmiller valued herself so little that she imbibed in the dissolute rituals. In the end, she turns it around and finds her salvation, in more ways than one.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Heather

    Yay! A memoir about how messed up your life is AND being a comic? Two of my favorite things! Good memoir, she did some crazy shit out of hating herself and don't we all identify and I'm glad she has pulled herself together. Great memoir, great listen. Yay! A memoir about how messed up your life is AND being a comic? Two of my favorite things! Good memoir, she did some crazy shit out of hating herself and don't we all identify and I'm glad she has pulled herself together. Great memoir, great listen.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Roxy

    There were some cringeworthy moments that made me think we she did the things she did. She clearly didn't like it, but she did it anyway. For a journalist, the memoir read like it was written by a high-schooler. There were some cringeworthy moments that made me think we she did the things she did. She clearly didn't like it, but she did it anyway. For a journalist, the memoir read like it was written by a high-schooler.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Morgan Schulman

    I was given in advanced readers copy in exchange for an honest review. I had requested this book because I loved XO Jane to death and because Cat Marnell's memoir was entertaining as hell. Unfortunately, this book is luridd without being entertaining , and just feels like I read somebody's AA 4th step or sat in on somebody's therapy session . I felt uncomfortable, not enlightened . Not sure what she was trying to achieve, but I don't think she achieved it I was given in advanced readers copy in exchange for an honest review. I had requested this book because I loved XO Jane to death and because Cat Marnell's memoir was entertaining as hell. Unfortunately, this book is luridd without being entertaining , and just feels like I read somebody's AA 4th step or sat in on somebody's therapy session . I felt uncomfortable, not enlightened . Not sure what she was trying to achieve, but I don't think she achieved it

  23. 5 out of 5

    Sarah Ames-Foley

    You can find more reviews like this on my blog. This was a really difficult read for me. It felt like rubbernecking, like witnessing someone else’s painful life-changing crash and not looking away even though you know you should. This memoir was unbelievably candidly honest, peeling back the layers none of us want to see. It was awkward and filled with secondhand embarrassment, it was graphic and showy, I had no idea how to feel about it and I honestly still don’t. I never played games at all with You can find more reviews like this on my blog. This was a really difficult read for me. It felt like rubbernecking, like witnessing someone else’s painful life-changing crash and not looking away even though you know you should. This memoir was unbelievably candidly honest, peeling back the layers none of us want to see. It was awkward and filled with secondhand embarrassment, it was graphic and showy, I had no idea how to feel about it and I honestly still don’t. I never played games at all with men. Ever. Unless the game was to act like the kind of nightmare who hysterically cries at the drop of a hat and replies on a man for all manner of self-validation, self-worth, and approval to fill that giant gaping hole inside. This memoir details Mandy’s life in New York City and her experiences with alcoholism -- and addiction of all kinds. It details her relationships with men, most of which crash and burn. It’s hard for me to evaluate how to feel about this, because I know in general people tend to be much harder on women when it comes to being frank about raunchy behavior. The thing is, I just don’t love reading about raunchy behavior. As an adult, I can have all the alcohol I want, anytime I want. Which, when you have no boundaries, is a dangerous combination. It would feel more like someone’s life journey if it weren’t for the incessant name dropping. She lists maybe every celebrity she’s ever had an encounter with, and makes sure to emphasize the particularly unsavory encounters. This makes it feel more showy than anything else and it’s hard to take her accounts more seriously than a continued cry for attention. I don’t know Mandy and I’m not going to pretend to know anything about Mandy, but she talks a lot about how oversharing in her writing has done her so much harm in her past, and I guess it’s hard for me to understand how this isn’t just a continuation of that. Is it fun? I don’t know. Is self-harm fun? You be the judge. Regardless, this is a pretty worthwhile read. Mandy is an incredibly good writer, and it’s easy to cruise through this book -- if you don’t have to keep putting it down every time a particularly embarrassing scene pops up. I think a lot of good topics are discussed, I just wish there had been more of an emphasis on recovery than detailing every dirty encounter she ever had.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Amber

    I always feel a bit guilty rating and reviewing memoirs. Who am I to judge the quality of someone else’s experience? My opinion of it doesn’t make it more or less valid. Things I liked about this book: 1) Mandy. 2) I can relate to a lot of her feelings and her fears. 3) She got her happy ending, but it was framed in a way that was real, and painful, and work - not fairytale bullshit. Things I did not like: 1) As a writer and comedian in NY she meets a lot of famous people, and she dropped a lot I always feel a bit guilty rating and reviewing memoirs. Who am I to judge the quality of someone else’s experience? My opinion of it doesn’t make it more or less valid. Things I liked about this book: 1) Mandy. 2) I can relate to a lot of her feelings and her fears. 3) She got her happy ending, but it was framed in a way that was real, and painful, and work - not fairytale bullshit. Things I did not like: 1) As a writer and comedian in NY she meets a lot of famous people, and she dropped a lot of names. Some of the people mentioned seemed to be relevant only because they’re famous. This couldn’t have been easy to write. She was so honest, at times I was terrified for her, and of her. I’m also in awe of her.

  25. 4 out of 5

    Kim Kardash

    Read this now!! But if you are easily offended I would suggest avoiding. If I could give this book 6 stars i would. Raw, sad and also very hilarious memoir. The last few chapters of her meeting Pat were incredible and warmed my heart!

  26. 4 out of 5

    Gina

    Mandy is 30 years old, recovering from a divorce, and has just landed her dream job at the New York Post. Traveling to New York, she is ready to begin a new life, start from scratch, and make a name for herself, which she does -maybe not in the way she intended. The year is 2005. Manhattan is calling, so she picks herself off, and heads cross country to begin her new life. Manhattan is all she thought it would be - full of night life, constant action, lights, glamour - and drugs. It doesn't take Mandy is 30 years old, recovering from a divorce, and has just landed her dream job at the New York Post. Traveling to New York, she is ready to begin a new life, start from scratch, and make a name for herself, which she does -maybe not in the way she intended. The year is 2005. Manhattan is calling, so she picks herself off, and heads cross country to begin her new life. Manhattan is all she thought it would be - full of night life, constant action, lights, glamour - and drugs. It doesn't take Mandy long to realize she is on a downward trajectory and hitting bottom quickly. This book is a no-holds-barred story of what it takes for Mandy to retrieve herself from the bottom of the spiral, through blackouts, and many, many bad decisions, to find the life she remembers wanting.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Davonna

    Unwifeable is the memoir of New York writer, columnist, comic, podcaster, reformed starf*cker extraordinaire Mandy Stadtmiller, though her story begins in Chicago and even takes readers on a brief jaunt to California. With the exception of the occasional flashback, her memoir covers 2005-2017. We meet her just after a painful divorce from her hipster college sweetheart; she's headed to the City as a newly transformed "piece of ass" (thanks to the divorce diet) to start a job at the infamous New Unwifeable is the memoir of New York writer, columnist, comic, podcaster, reformed starf*cker extraordinaire Mandy Stadtmiller, though her story begins in Chicago and even takes readers on a brief jaunt to California. With the exception of the occasional flashback, her memoir covers 2005-2017. We meet her just after a painful divorce from her hipster college sweetheart; she's headed to the City as a newly transformed "piece of ass" (thanks to the divorce diet) to start a job at the infamous New York Post. Readers get to join Stadtmiller on her (mis)adventures in dating; her experiences range from accidental snort-laugh funny to heartbreaking to downright terrifying. And while the book's title and cover art imply a dating confessional, it's so much more than that. There's something here for nearly everyone. For those of you interested in "the business," you get to be a fly on the wall as she navigates the strange worlds of the Page Six literati: comics, writers, agents, fellow columnists, and a delightful number of A-through-D-listers (easily the most entertaining of which being Courtney Love). For those of you interested in the logistical experience of picking up and moving to NYC without a trust fund, Mandy's got you covered. I really enjoy her honesty about the financial pressures and strains as she attempts to pass as "one of them," especially during her stint dating the uber-rich preppy guy who "summers" in places like the Hamptons and Newport. For those of you who are into good writing, you will be impressed with Stadtmiller's gorgeous prose. I've encountered more than a few books in this genre that are downright unreadable, so it's a delight to be able to soak of up all this fun and sometimes sordid content all the while truly enjoying the act of reading. Perhaps most surprising of all is the fact that this book is an unsung self-help book and ought to be marketed more heavily as such. Honestly, I found Unwifeable infinitely more healing than the last five self-help books I've cracked open combined. I experienced more than a few emotional and psychological gut-punches, and I didn't always see it coming. More than anything, Stadtmiller's memoir chronicles her many efforts to heal her childhood wounds. I don't want to give too much away, but suffice it to say that she finds her way, one epiphany at at time. Of course, first we have to watch helplessly (like a car wreck, but you know who's in the car, and you really like them) as she attempts to fill the void through sex, drugs, disordered eating, and this brief dabbling in Machiavellian A-lister love triangle puppet-mastery. I recommend this book to just about anyone, the only exception being people who are easily offended. I especially recommend this book to women in their 30s and 40s who really loved Sex and the City but always suspected the reality was perhaps not quite so shiny.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Kara

    Mandy Stadtmiller's Unwifeable is a brutally honest memoir about her life in Manhattan writing for the New York Post after leaving an unsatisfying job and marriage. She attends glamorous parties, meets a wide variety of celebrities (who are not always happy to make her acquaintance as a gossip journalist), gets in over her head with drugs and alcohol, all while trying to accept herself, develop meaningful relationships and a satisfying career. Although sometimes cringe-worthy and tough to read, Mandy Stadtmiller's Unwifeable is a brutally honest memoir about her life in Manhattan writing for the New York Post after leaving an unsatisfying job and marriage. She attends glamorous parties, meets a wide variety of celebrities (who are not always happy to make her acquaintance as a gossip journalist), gets in over her head with drugs and alcohol, all while trying to accept herself, develop meaningful relationships and a satisfying career. Although sometimes cringe-worthy and tough to read, I think anyone can identify with her experiences on some level. Hilarious, outrageous, entertaining, candid, sometimes sad, but also hopeful. If you love a good, juicy memoir, read this book.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Ronya

    I know you’re supposed to have compassion for those who are fighting addiction and have been the victims of abuse but I just could not find it in me to see Mandy as anything but an annoying, careless, selfish, name dropping gossip writer. It seemed to me more an opportunity to tell her tales and brag about her conquests than it was one to reflect upon her life, mistakes, choices, etc. I respect she had the wherewithal to get through that [20 year] phase but found it more a cringeworthy account t I know you’re supposed to have compassion for those who are fighting addiction and have been the victims of abuse but I just could not find it in me to see Mandy as anything but an annoying, careless, selfish, name dropping gossip writer. It seemed to me more an opportunity to tell her tales and brag about her conquests than it was one to reflect upon her life, mistakes, choices, etc. I respect she had the wherewithal to get through that [20 year] phase but found it more a cringeworthy account than a story of growth and redemption.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Erin Khar

    I absolutely loved this book. It was an engaging, fast read. Mandy's clear and moving prose captivated me from the first page. Her honesty and vulnerability resonated so strongly with me. Readers will be equally entertained and moved. Highly recommend. I absolutely loved this book. It was an engaging, fast read. Mandy's clear and moving prose captivated me from the first page. Her honesty and vulnerability resonated so strongly with me. Readers will be equally entertained and moved. Highly recommend.

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