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The first book EVER written about the women who have loved psychopathic men! What are your temperament traits that have contributed to being attracted to, and tolerant of, the most dangerous of people? Sandra has done it again! She has rewritten the Women Who Love Psychopaths Book (an already Award Winning Book) to include some of the newest and most compelling evidence on The first book EVER written about the women who have loved psychopathic men! What are your temperament traits that have contributed to being attracted to, and tolerant of, the most dangerous of people? Sandra has done it again! She has rewritten the Women Who Love Psychopaths Book (an already Award Winning Book) to include some of the newest and most compelling evidence on Neuro-science and what brain differences actually exist in borderlines, narcissists, anti-social, sociopaths, and psychopaths. From brain region mal-formations to brain circuitry and brain chemical differences, these new sections of the book will blow away any theories about this being merely willful behavior on his part! Additionally, lots of new information about recovery and treatment that came right from The Institute s own Model of Care Approach we designed that is being implemented in psychiatric hospitals. From the last few years of treating survivors, we now have a clear and compelling approach to recovery. And learn even MORE fascinating aspects of why Sandra believes these relationships are highly connected to trance, hypnotic inductions and your own high suggestibility! Find out what you need to do to protect yourself from entrancem.


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The first book EVER written about the women who have loved psychopathic men! What are your temperament traits that have contributed to being attracted to, and tolerant of, the most dangerous of people? Sandra has done it again! She has rewritten the Women Who Love Psychopaths Book (an already Award Winning Book) to include some of the newest and most compelling evidence on The first book EVER written about the women who have loved psychopathic men! What are your temperament traits that have contributed to being attracted to, and tolerant of, the most dangerous of people? Sandra has done it again! She has rewritten the Women Who Love Psychopaths Book (an already Award Winning Book) to include some of the newest and most compelling evidence on Neuro-science and what brain differences actually exist in borderlines, narcissists, anti-social, sociopaths, and psychopaths. From brain region mal-formations to brain circuitry and brain chemical differences, these new sections of the book will blow away any theories about this being merely willful behavior on his part! Additionally, lots of new information about recovery and treatment that came right from The Institute s own Model of Care Approach we designed that is being implemented in psychiatric hospitals. From the last few years of treating survivors, we now have a clear and compelling approach to recovery. And learn even MORE fascinating aspects of why Sandra believes these relationships are highly connected to trance, hypnotic inductions and your own high suggestibility! Find out what you need to do to protect yourself from entrancem.

30 review for Women Who Love Psychopaths

  1. 4 out of 5

    Jocelyn Jazmen

    Okay, this is a tough review for me, because it's kinda serious and sobering. Many of my Goodreads friends (as well as myself), are fans of the Alpha male, and in much of the erotica I read these guys have a titillating effect on the female protagonists, such as an instant fierce flame of attraction, overcome by his aura of virility, melting at his intense gazing, electricity at his touch, the excitement at feeling so wanted, of him making her feel as she were the most desirable woman in the worl Okay, this is a tough review for me, because it's kinda serious and sobering. Many of my Goodreads friends (as well as myself), are fans of the Alpha male, and in much of the erotica I read these guys have a titillating effect on the female protagonists, such as an instant fierce flame of attraction, overcome by his aura of virility, melting at his intense gazing, electricity at his touch, the excitement at feeling so wanted, of him making her feel as she were the most desirable woman in the world, leaving her breathless. Do such men exist? According to this book, they actually do! But ladies beware, they're bound to be more like Tony in Consequences rather than Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey. And according to just about all the women interviewed, these guys are incredible in the sack. But they're not rich billionaires - often the opposite - losers! And they're notoriously unfaithful because of their hyperactive sex drive. And then again, we have our tortured heroes (which I for one am a sucker for in novels). See below: Many ladies might be attracted to the self-confident, dominant alpha male, and I confess that at times I am also. But I also realize that all men, like all human beings, have their weaknesses too, so if I only see that side I know they are hiding it and putting on an act. Many sociopaths and narcissists fall into this category. On the other hand, if a guy is making it a point to show his weak sensitive self, mainly through stories of being a victim (my wife ran off with another guy and she took all my money, or she died and I feel so empty boo hoo hoo, i.e. tortured hero syndrome), that could be a danger sign as well. What a dilemma! These men have no conscious, literally not a shred of it, and their displays of love and affection are totally calculated. They can't form meaningful bonds with others. Although they don't bond emotionally, they do attach to others. Just as parasites latch on to healthy bodies, so psychopaths latch on to decent human beings to suck the life out of them. If they would be easy to detect, most of us would avoid these social parasites like the plague. Unfortunately, however, psychopaths are social chameleons who can disguise their evil natures. They come across as exceptionally charming, friendly, humorous, kind, entertaining and very romantic. Initially, they appear to be perfect romantic partners. Their glibness and charm, as well as their propensity for deception and disguise, often masks their malicious intent. For such individuals, cheating, lying and hurting others is a pleasurable game: a form of entertainment. We're not talking about hardened criminals and serial killers here, but swindlers and love-frauds. They are not only a threat to your finances, but they can wreck a victim emotionally. We're all too familiar with the wife-beaters and control freaks that torment poor, uneducated women, but this book shows that in many instances the female prey is an educated, competitive professional. A good case study of this in a BDSM relaionship, Nine and a Half Weeks: A Memoir of a Love Affair, which shows what can happen and is totally consistent with the case studies in this book. You might think that this book is an esoteric choice, but more women should be reading it, since there are a lot more psychopaths out there than you realize. And married women can be just as vulnerable to these real-life Draculas. (Another term that is used is sociopath, which I prefer because it sounds less extreme, and therefore more common, as an estimated 25 million of them are out there). Whew, I'm tired! If interested, you can read the reviews on Gr and Amazon. Ciao!

  2. 5 out of 5

    N. Jr.

    Unlike many "personal psychology" books, this one was not written to make a buck, but with an urgent sincerity towards addressing a much ignored problem in our society. The author comes across as an impassioned activist who has spent years combating the insidious and dangerous phenomenon of psychopaths. The approach in this book is victim oriented, attempting to identify the character traits of the women most susceptible to the crafty deceit of these predators. One significant revelation is that Unlike many "personal psychology" books, this one was not written to make a buck, but with an urgent sincerity towards addressing a much ignored problem in our society. The author comes across as an impassioned activist who has spent years combating the insidious and dangerous phenomenon of psychopaths. The approach in this book is victim oriented, attempting to identify the character traits of the women most susceptible to the crafty deceit of these predators. One significant revelation is that a good number of potential victims are actually those who are competitive, extroverted, successful women, who in some cases find many men to be boring, predictable, or not up to scratch to their own strong personalities and who find the false facade of the psychopath to be exuberantly refreshing, thus breaking the myth that the women involved in such relationships are generally vulnerable, low self-confidence females who are overly dependent. This new understanding allows the focus to be on the psychopath's extraordinary ability to manipulate, rather than emphasizing the victim's supposed weakness, and is the first crucial step in dealing with the problem. Although the traits of potential victims listed in the book were derived from a survey of small sample size (only 75), I have no reason to doubt the conclusions, i.e. it makes intuitive sense to me. It is estimated that 6 million men in the US are psychopaths, but some say twice as many, that is 1 in 25 men have these traits, which makes this book all the more important was well as the websites mentioned and the work done at the Institute. This book is relevant on other levels as well, from child abuse to psychological methods of torture, and I am sure to read it again, probably several times over. The only criticism I have is that women psychopaths do exist also, and although probably fewer in number, I wouldn't be surprised if their numbers have been increasing. This might be of concern for those engaged in lesbian relationships, as well as susceptible men and children. I highly recommend this book.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Claudia Moscovici

    Wouldn’t you like to be able to recognize scam artists before you got cheated out of your life savings? Wouldn’t you want to identify Losers before you become romantically involved with them? They say that one learns more from experience than from books, but that’s not necessarily the case. Bad experiences can cause so much financial and emotional devastation that recovering from them becomes very difficult: for some, even impossible. How many times have you run across women who date the same ki Wouldn’t you like to be able to recognize scam artists before you got cheated out of your life savings? Wouldn’t you want to identify Losers before you become romantically involved with them? They say that one learns more from experience than from books, but that’s not necessarily the case. Bad experiences can cause so much financial and emotional devastation that recovering from them becomes very difficult: for some, even impossible. How many times have you run across women who date the same kind of bad men, without learning anything from their experiences except heartache? Eventually, many women settle for bad men, believing that all men are like that or that they somehow deserve the mistreatment. Learning to recognize dangerous individuals can spare us and our loved ones years of hardship. In fact, personal experience and psychological information can work together. Books that identify the characteristics of dangerous individuals can help us recognize red flags and escape real-life predatory relationships early on, with far less damage to our wallets and our lives. One of the most helpful books in this genre is Dr. Sandra L. Brown‘s newest edition of Women Who Love Psychopaths: Insde the Relationship of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths and Narcissists (Mask Publishing, 2009). This is a long title for a book that gets straight point in explaining clearly, for a general audience, the characteristics of dangerous individuals. Dr. Brown explains that dangerous men (and women) suffer from unfixable personality disorders: psychopathy and narcissism in particular. Such individuals have constitutive emotional deficiencies. They can’t form meaningful bonds with others. Although they don’t bond emotionally, they do attach to others. Just as parasites latch on to healthy bodies, so psychopaths latch on to decent human beings to suck the life out of them. If they would be easy to detect, most of us would avoid these social parasites like the plague. Unfortunately, however, psychopaths are social chameleons who can disguise their evil natures. They come across as exceptionally charming, friendly, humorous, kind, entertaining and very romantic. Initially, they appear to be perfect romantic partners. Their glibness and charm, as well as their propensity for deception and disguise, often masks their malicious intent. Psychopaths have no conscience, are impulsive and reward-driven and get bored easily. For such individuals, cheating, lying and hurting others is a pleasurable game: a form of entertainment. We often read about psychopaths in the news. Their lack of conscience enables them to commit horrible crimes, including rape, pedophilia and murder. Most psychopaths, however, aren’t hardened criminals. They’re swindlers and love frauds, temporarily attaching to decent human beings to milk them of money, shelter and affection: sometimes, to destroy them. For all practical purposes, how psychopaths became disordered isn’t as important to their victims as the fact that they can’t significantly improve their behavior. Whether they’re evil by nature, nurture, or a combination of both, they will still cheat on you, lie to you, use you, and perhaps even steal your money along with your heart. When involved with a psychopath, Dr. Brown emphasizes, there’s nothing you can do to change him or his disorder. The one thing you can–and should do–is save yourself. Because psychopaths cause so much harm to society, there are numerous clinical studies of their personality disorder. In addition, the true crime shelves of bookstores are packed with salacious accounts of their misdeeds. But there are practically no comparable studies of their tens of millions of victims. Just do the math. Psychologists estimate that between 1 and 4 percent of the population is psychopathic. This adds up to several million psychopaths in this country alone. Because psychopaths are highly promiscuous and form dozens of relationships, a single psychopath can damage the lives of dozens of women. That’s several million persons hurt, sometimes beyond repair, by the malicious actions of these disordered individuals. In the literature on psychopathy, the victims are often the forgotten part of the equation: even though they outnumber by far the psychopaths themselves. Women Who Love Psychopaths is the most comprehensive study I know of about the female victims, from their own perspective. This book reveals the whole picture: the psychopaths and their hosts. Dr. Brown focuses her clinical study on a few dozen women who depict in great detail their horrific experiences with psychopaths. But it’s important to note that these women could be any of us. They weren’t particularly weak, or gullible, or uneducated individuals. On the contrary: this book reveals that the women who fall in love with psychopaths tend to be trusting, accomplished, devoted persons with good characters and high emotional investment in their romantic relationships. Psychopaths prefer to test their strength against strong and moral women, not against those they consider weak or already corrupt. These women became involved with psychopaths because they were initially fooled by their “mask of sanity”: the good image that any psychopath projects to those whom he wants to seduce and use. They fell prey to the ruse not because they were especially naive, but because very little prepares us in life for the kind of person who systematically deceives, uses, exploits and harms others, just for the fun of it and with malice. Statistically, psychopaths are relatively common. But psychologically they’re highly abnormal. We will not be able to identify them or comprehend their malicious motives if our frame of reference is relatively normal human beings. To identify psychopaths and protect ourselves against them, we need to become acquainted with the basics of abnormal psychology. Moreover, it’s not easy to see through a psychopath’s mask of sanity before getting burned. This is especially true when the psychopaths themselves are educated, attractive and employed in well-respected professions–as teachers, professors, lawyers, doctors, counselors, therapists or businessmen–which is often the case. Without a basic understanding of personality disorders and awareness of our own vulnerabilities to dangerous individuals, most of us couldn’t spot or defend ourselves against these wolves in sheep’s clothing. This is exactly the invaluable information that Dr. Brown’s book offers us. Women Who Love Psychopaths focuses on psychopathy as a relationship between psychopaths and their chosen targets. Looking at psychopaths in isolation is not enough. It doesn’t reveal how they latch on to normal individuals; how they fool us. Without finding numerous willing partners–to dupe, mistreat and use–a psychopath ceases to function. To grasp the danger posed by psychopathic individuals, we therefore need to understand both sides of the coin: the personality traits of the psychopaths themselves as well as our own potential vulnerabilities to psychopathic seduction. Women Who Love Psychopaths reveals this more complete picture. Think about how many self-defense classes are taught in this country. Sadly, there’s no equivalent for psychological defense. This must-read book is about emotional self-defense, which should be our first line of protection against social predators. Claudia Moscovici, author of the upcoming book Dangerous Liaisons: How to Avoid and Escape from Psychopathic Seduction

  4. 5 out of 5

    Jilaine Tarisa

    “award-winning author”? well, I guess there are a lot of awards out there these days. Christiane Northrup recommended this book in one of her talks, so I hunted down a copy (my training is in law, psychology, and mediation, and I’m particularly interested in “relationship issues.”) “Women Who Love Psychopaths” contains some useful information about dysfunctional and dangerous relationship patterns; unfortunately, it’s poorly written and desperately in need of a good editor. I don’t doubt that the “award-winning author”? well, I guess there are a lot of awards out there these days. Christiane Northrup recommended this book in one of her talks, so I hunted down a copy (my training is in law, psychology, and mediation, and I’m particularly interested in “relationship issues.”) “Women Who Love Psychopaths” contains some useful information about dysfunctional and dangerous relationship patterns; unfortunately, it’s poorly written and desperately in need of a good editor. I don’t doubt that the author knows something about her subject (victims), but I question the depth of her understanding about the psyche. (One thing she gets right: women mistaking intensity for passionate and enduring love.) Grammar, spelling, punctuation are so misused, I found it difficult to wade through all the errors: Potatoe? “chocked full”? (I believe the expression is “chock-full”) “power mongrels” (power “mongers,” perhaps?) “splitting one person against the other: (“pitting,” maybe?) The list is extensive. The author also needs to learn how to properly quote and cite sources, e.g., note page numbers for quotes from books. (She references a book by “Dr. Reid Melloy” - Meloy, actually, and I question whether the source really says the psychopath’s stare is a “relentless gaze that seems to preclude the psychopath’s destruction of his victim” - “precede,” perhaps?) Given the lack of care that has gone into the preparation of this book, readers should be wary of relying upon its conclusions. While parts of it probably have validity, who can say which parts?

  5. 5 out of 5

    Becky Reed

    I was asked what kind of women attract the narcissist (and psychopath) - I just finished reading Sandra L. Brown, M.A.'s Women Who Love Psychopaths. This is an AMAZINGLY encompassing work and I'd say that coming through a relationship of inevitable harm, I found it relief-exploding in the evaluation of women who suffer from such contact. I said repeatedly that I felt my goodness was turned against me...and she categorizes just what and why this occurs....and "codependency" isn't in the mix. Wome I was asked what kind of women attract the narcissist (and psychopath) - I just finished reading Sandra L. Brown, M.A.'s Women Who Love Psychopaths. This is an AMAZINGLY encompassing work and I'd say that coming through a relationship of inevitable harm, I found it relief-exploding in the evaluation of women who suffer from such contact. I said repeatedly that I felt my goodness was turned against me...and she categorizes just what and why this occurs....and "codependency" isn't in the mix. Women connected to the strange sycophant actually began the relationship "while impaired" - past periods of extended care-giving, loss such as divorce...even boredom. This is a unique study of the "victims" of psychopaths and their assets such as relationship investment. So many of the traits have been misdiagnosed as attachment formats. This illustrates the predictable cycle of these relationships and why the bonding is so strong - how the woman, normally strong and vital, feels so fragile or mentally ill. Dissonance from the victim's perspective has a great deal to do with the psychopath's dichotomy of his childlike quality and adult mystique, not to mention communication skills and techniques. The entire book is compiled with data, explanation, reason, and connectivity. There is no fluff within the covers. The reasons we find ourselves captivated by these "alien essences" can be brought to light and Sandra Brown does this with clarity and an empathic comprehension - especially within the awareness of women because it is embarrassing being caught in the lure of sexuality. We are intelligent...and capable...and yet, we succumbed to some fairy tale -explained are the release of hormones and the staging by the psychopath, even the differentiation in his use of language. We who have been taught that communication is the tool for problem solving find ourselves in the Twilight Zone. In so many fields and places in our lives, we have no answers and even negatively critical judgments about "our behavior." We are being held to incompatible standards. There exist so many conflicts with belief systems, ideologies, and spiritual and religious principles where compassion is revered. It seems that we victims have been "hoisted on our own petards." Ms. Brown's book covers everything I questioned....and it is an affirmation that "something wicked this way comes." I don't mean to sound so melodramatic that my review is discounted. The AHA- moments were almost at every page, and most assuredly in every chapter. There is - if one enjoys science fiction - a correlation with the short-lived TV show, "Threshold." Awareness takes time. I know many on blogs are "nutters" in their own right, mostly because they have not found the data to help themselves. So many therapists have simply not understood and the "pie-in-the-sky" New Thought folks have not come in contact with this form of "alien" presence. It's not that it is evil (maybe - ?), but the two philosophies for life - those in healthy (just the ups and downs of routine dysfunctions, perhaps) states and those suffering psychopathy are simply incompatible. Her phrase, "relationships of inevitable harm" will forever ring true to me. Here is the BIG QUESTION - and one ripe for a new book....because the numbers of psychopaths appear to be rising, how are we to live with these beings? I understand the no contact rule and it is VITAL...but in the long run with the thought that these people cannot be treated, for humanity, what are we to do? Every chapter in her book has dog-eared corners in my home. I carry it with me to the restroom, I return it to the coffee table...and I USE it for reference. As always in this life, the lessons are much more about myself. AND Sandra's treatment of us victims is kind, observant, and chocked full of evaluational data. I am floored and delighted that there are explanations for super traits rather than that we have "failed" to be bright enough, wise enough, or even aware enough. I gleaned that my traits might just be valuable. Somewhere the patriarchal (and yet, I have learned that men can be victims, also) guidelines have become overly and overtly zealous. I don't believe it is as simplistic as relationships with authority that comes into question, although, our deep seated thoughts on "happily ever after" probably filters many of our personal scope of evaluations. I am never quite as trusting as once I was...and because I have daughters and grandsons, I am alert to those in our realm and my own reactions to them. I'm not paranoid, but neither do I let a brief intuitive feeling flow past without a moment of appraisal. I share my thoughts....so much is falling into place for me (and MANY others) because of THIS book, Women Who Love Psychopaths, in particular. I have read Brown's other works, but this one is of monumental importance! There must be a more moving way to say this. It struck a chord of complete connection and affirmation within my very being and soul. There is REASON for the chaos into which I fell. And all with the best of intentions. It is not concisely ONE AHA-moment, but everything in the book. The explanations cover daily life with a psychopath...the lure, the treatment, the forever changing terrain and MOST importantly the way we who fall prey respond. For me, this book relates to my daily heartaches, fears, anguish, and quest for my ideal. Not just of the relationship, but of the "me" I knew before this fear-fest of an encounter. The absolute torture was in the faltering grasp of my own humanity. AND to have AGREEMENT is CRUCIAL for survival...not just mouthed upsets and emotions, but to comprehend the why's. Interestingly, as I look over this review, I see the feelings expressed. Our society seems to be based on these very emotions and the need to join and establish rapport. Transferring our thoughts and feelings onto this "other" who is called a psychopath reminds me of Michael Crichton's book, Sphere. " What if the contact with an alien or artifact has no frame of reference for us as human beings" is the gist of the novel. It appears to have come to life today. With profound respect and gratitude for allowing me to feel that my "style" of emotional sharing is NOT the CAUSE of the psychopath's evil in pinpointing me. It is, albeit, something to be watched and monitored by me, myself.

  6. 5 out of 5

    Connie

    Never has a book, since the Bible, impacted my life in such a positive way. This is a must read for any teenage girl or woman. Because of my circumstances it took me an entire year to read, process, and finish. I recommend this book quite often to women who come to me looking for advice. It literally helped save my life!

  7. 4 out of 5

    Harrison

    Perhaps the best book I know that no only introduces the concept of psychopathy, but shows how and why they are able to destroy the lives of so many women. The information applies to so many levels. Highly recommended.

  8. 5 out of 5

    Melissa

    I seriously thought she had been following me around with a tape recorder!!! She nailed this topic and has great insights on the how when why that really helped me move on to the healing part. I was so stuck in the why of it I could not move to the next step! All I can say is THANK YOU!

  9. 4 out of 5

    Lisa Thomasse

    How psychopaths affect their romantic partners is an interesting topic and it did spark some new interests for me but this book could have been so much better. To start off, it was poorly written with quite some grammar and spelling mistakes that made its understanding confusing. Moreover, the author appears close-minded about topics of a sexual nature such as porn and polygamy, and she tends to represent a very conservative, if not Christian, view of what a healthy life should be. Plus, I found How psychopaths affect their romantic partners is an interesting topic and it did spark some new interests for me but this book could have been so much better. To start off, it was poorly written with quite some grammar and spelling mistakes that made its understanding confusing. Moreover, the author appears close-minded about topics of a sexual nature such as porn and polygamy, and she tends to represent a very conservative, if not Christian, view of what a healthy life should be. Plus, I found that this book was not inclusive at all. For instance, it only refers to heterosexual couple dynamics and consistently portrays the men as bad guys and the women as victims. Also, what disturbed me is that I was feeling influenced to believe, at multiple times, that psychopaths are doomed without ever referring to proper scientific studies but folk stories to support that theory. It never addresses any steps to prevent a child from becoming a psychopath. The only way was to not have a DAD as a psychopath. How the author addressed that issue was a bit borderline for me. Finally, the book seems to only refer to psychopaths on the extreme end of the spectrum, over-generalizing them, not addressing if/how someone on the lower end of psychopathy has an effect on a romantic relationship. Maybe this book was more written to make money than it was to serve as a scientific vulgarisation on the topic. For this reason and the ones cited above, I would not recommend this book. If, however, you still want to read it I would advise caution in its interpretation and maybe more as a book to stimulate your curiosity rather than teach you about psychopaths.

  10. 5 out of 5

    Aspensail

    Stupid clown book written by a scientist wanna-be

  11. 5 out of 5

    Erin

    Solid info; needs to be proofread The information given in this book is very enlightening, and I've already recommended it to several people based on the descriptions of victim traits alone. I especially appreciate how the author gives a lot of hope for recovery and points out how we need more public education about psychopathy. I'm not sure I agree with the author's take on hypnosis as a manipulation tool. While I'm sure some people do it intentionally, it still seems a bit farfetched to call it Solid info; needs to be proofread The information given in this book is very enlightening, and I've already recommended it to several people based on the descriptions of victim traits alone. I especially appreciate how the author gives a lot of hope for recovery and points out how we need more public education about psychopathy. I'm not sure I agree with the author's take on hypnosis as a manipulation tool. While I'm sure some people do it intentionally, it still seems a bit farfetched to call it common and devote an entire chapter to it. I would have preferred a longer, more in-depth section on cognitive dissonance, intrusive thoughts, and how to use the rephrasing exercise effectively on my own. However, the editing in this book is quite poor. The publisher would do well to have their books professionally copyedited. For instance, one chapter had two "Conclusion" sections back to back. Typos and inconsistent usage run throughout. Several charts and graphics didn't make much sense and did nothing to clarify the ideas they represented, and many still showed the telltale red spell check underline under text in the photos. Overall, good substance, sub-par presentation.

  12. 4 out of 5

    Terri

    This is a very informative book which is easy to read, not too techinal or "clinical" I maintain that it should be required reading for all women. I believe the author is well-educated and experienced in this field and does a wonderful job communicating what women should know about pathological men. However, the grammatical and typographical errors throughout this book are distracting and somewhat diminish the professionality of the text. This is a very informative book which is easy to read, not too techinal or "clinical" I maintain that it should be required reading for all women. I believe the author is well-educated and experienced in this field and does a wonderful job communicating what women should know about pathological men. However, the grammatical and typographical errors throughout this book are distracting and somewhat diminish the professionality of the text.

  13. 4 out of 5

    Andy

    If you think maybe you should read this book, then you should definitely read this book Or, listen to her mp3s - hearing her voice helps. Also, there are some good interviews with her on SoundCloud.

  14. 4 out of 5

    Joy Kaplan

    This book should be read by every girl in the world so that she will know and understand the signs of abuse!

  15. 5 out of 5

    zaira khan

    I think the clinical psychologists must read this book as compulsory.A very good book for every one who is inquisitive in knowing the human personality traits..

  16. 4 out of 5

    Kathryn

    Informative I was told to read this book from my therapist. I figured out a lot by reading it. It helps to understand pathological people and how to stay away.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Meagan Harris

    The most comprehensive resource I've found on the psychology of people with cluster-B personality disorders, the typical personalities of those they target, and the dynamics of relationships with them. Throughout the book the author emphasizes just how destructive and traumatic the effects of being in relationship with these people is, something that is often overlooked or underestimated in other books. She provides a detailed and in-depth description of the layers of trauma that persevere after The most comprehensive resource I've found on the psychology of people with cluster-B personality disorders, the typical personalities of those they target, and the dynamics of relationships with them. Throughout the book the author emphasizes just how destructive and traumatic the effects of being in relationship with these people is, something that is often overlooked or underestimated in other books. She provides a detailed and in-depth description of the layers of trauma that persevere after the relationship has ended. Above all, I appreciated how she offers an alternative to the common perception that only people with their own codependent pathology are attracted to people with cluster-B disorders. Instead of the assumption that it is weakness in the target that attracts women to these men and keeps them in the relationship, the author contends that it is, in fact, a combination of "super-traits" that are actually well-developed, healthy characteristics in most aspects of life. The discussion of how women feel both in these relationships and afterwards goes beyond "He was manipulative, you felt confused, go no contact and get therapy", and goes into detail about all of the facets of cognitive dissonance that are present in these relationships, and how they, combined with his manipulation and her conscientiousness, create and incredibly complex and dangerous dynamic. Overall this is the most informative and validating resource I have found on the subject.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Mahmoud Seleem

    Isn't it contradictory already? as if the one who wrote the introduction has psychosis and is not willing to live with it. Check from the introduction: 'The first book EVER written about the women who have loved psychopathic men! What are your temperament traits that have contributed to being attracted to, and tolerant of, the most dangerous of people?' Here the problem is with the one being attracted and the writer assumes they are mostly women. However, 'From brain region mal-formations to bra Isn't it contradictory already? as if the one who wrote the introduction has psychosis and is not willing to live with it. Check from the introduction: 'The first book EVER written about the women who have loved psychopathic men! What are your temperament traits that have contributed to being attracted to, and tolerant of, the most dangerous of people?' Here the problem is with the one being attracted and the writer assumes they are mostly women. However, 'From brain region mal-formations to brain circuitry and brain chemical differences, these new sections of the book will blow away any theories about this being merely willful behavior on his part!' Here the problem is with the anti-social who has mal-functioning in the brain and it is on the person's part. Why do you blame someone for being attracted to him/her? to me, it's the problem of the one who is being attracted, attracted to people or things doesn't matter, what matters is that the person is getting attached to, not that someone is attracting people to themselves. This is like "I am going to call you crazy because you made me project myself onto you, how come you are so attractive? please stop being anti-social _l_

  19. 4 out of 5

    Nancy Hinsey

    Written by a psychiatrist who has studied socio- and psycopathic behavior AND THE EFFECTS ON VICTIMS for over 20 years, this book provides invaluable explanations, real-life experiences and a support system for victims. The first part of the book is an exhaustive and detailed description and categorization of the psycopath's traits and personality. The second half is devoted to profiling his (most are male) target victims. This book has made a huge difference in my life, toward understanding the Written by a psychiatrist who has studied socio- and psycopathic behavior AND THE EFFECTS ON VICTIMS for over 20 years, this book provides invaluable explanations, real-life experiences and a support system for victims. The first part of the book is an exhaustive and detailed description and categorization of the psycopath's traits and personality. The second half is devoted to profiling his (most are male) target victims. This book has made a huge difference in my life, toward understanding the Cognitive Dissonance that I experienced every day of my relationship with a psychopath....I was an unknowing participant in his scheme. His goal was manipulation and control to satisfy his needs/wants, while mine was to replace his "evil" with "love," and manifest a better, more joyous life for him. As is oft stated - - they cannot and will not change. "Inherent harm" is the unswerving theme. If you or someone you know suspects (or is certain) they are in a relationship with a psycopath (or sociopath - categorized together in psychiatry) this book is an IMPERATIVE READ.

  20. 5 out of 5

    Rutger

    Horrible. Upfront, I thought this book would be about the curious relationship between psychopathic males and their sexual appeal to women. I also expected the book to highlight the causes of this phenomenon and how women could be more forewarned about bad sexual instincts. In that sense the book wasn’t disappointing, but qua content it sure was. It’s unfair to punish a writer for your false expectations, so I wanted to give 2 stars, but that would be unjust to people who want to read about this Horrible. Upfront, I thought this book would be about the curious relationship between psychopathic males and their sexual appeal to women. I also expected the book to highlight the causes of this phenomenon and how women could be more forewarned about bad sexual instincts. In that sense the book wasn’t disappointing, but qua content it sure was. It’s unfair to punish a writer for your false expectations, so I wanted to give 2 stars, but that would be unjust to people who want to read about this topic and decide 2 stars isn’t too bad — because it is. This book is mostly a summary of popsci psychopath books (like the work of Richard Hare), women’s magazine folk wisdom and the personal rationalisaties of a writer who got hurt by an enormous jerk. That’s all this book is: endless talk about the depravities of psychopaths in their intimate relationships. I recommend people who are interested in this topic to read more EvoPsych books or essays on the biological roots of crime. All that would be much more useful than reading this bad collage.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Heather Leipart

    One of those books where hindsight is 20/20. I wish I would have read this a long time ago, but I doubt I could have understood it as deeply as I do now having not only read through this information but also experienced similar things as described in the book. I think this should be required reading for women of dating age!!

  22. 5 out of 5

    Ally

    Must read for all genders As someone who has survived a relationship with a psychopath this has been a godsend. It certainly opened my eyes to how pervasive psychopathy is and clearly outlines the traits and behaviours to avoid. Essential reading for everyone. But just women but helpful to understand exactly what happened to me.

  23. 5 out of 5

    Sophiebird

    Well, I guess this is a good beginner book for someone in a bad situation hoping to hear that, yes, game players and manipulators do exist and that, no, things won’t improve. Also a lot of sorry tales of women who stayed too long. Doesn’t address psychopathic females particularly.

  24. 5 out of 5

    BegumIrdawati

    A must read for survivors!

  25. 4 out of 5

    Monica Taylor

    Very helpful This book has opened my eyes to the long term effects from relationships with psychopaths and ways to heal afterwards.

  26. 4 out of 5

    Julia Shapiro

    It was helpful to gain insight on why I was susceptible to a psychopath, how they think, act. Helped me feel like I wasn't alone. Helped me on my path of healing. It was helpful to gain insight on why I was susceptible to a psychopath, how they think, act. Helped me feel like I wasn't alone. Helped me on my path of healing.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Rachel Van Sickle

    A proofreader would have been helpful, but this is an important resource guide for everyone. I wish we thought to read books such as this BEFORE we dated a psychopath.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Pam

    Very informative from a clinical standpoint. I highly recommend this book for anyone involved in or knows someone who is or has been in these types of relationships.

  29. 5 out of 5

    VBergen

    I find the book's title awful and shameful, because it is like this is a book for, or about Ted Bundy fans or lovers. Psychopath is not a synonym of killer, but that's what the media shows and most people believe, so the title would mislead the wide possible public. Yet in some parts of the book it is hinted that women are aware or become aware of what monsters those men are and they love these men anyway. The book's speech "you are kind, smart, loyal, committed, you have empathy, then they will I find the book's title awful and shameful, because it is like this is a book for, or about Ted Bundy fans or lovers. Psychopath is not a synonym of killer, but that's what the media shows and most people believe, so the title would mislead the wide possible public. Yet in some parts of the book it is hinted that women are aware or become aware of what monsters those men are and they love these men anyway. The book's speech "you are kind, smart, loyal, committed, you have empathy, then they will target you and you may fall for them because they are irresistible, but don't worry, that doesn't mean you are not smart, but they are just irresistible, very irresistible" is annoying. It was difficult to decide how to rate this book because some chapters were very informative, nice, and well written, while others made me want to stop right away and throw the book to the recycle bin. For example this book has religious stuff on it! like the bible nonsense. It was little, but still, this book is based on research, so no need to quote that book. Other chapters were plainly boring. The book's score I chose was positive because of the few really good chapters, like the one talking about children, custody, and courts. Despite of the bad, the book is worth it. To conclude with the author's quote that summarizes the subject: "they are sicker than we are smart".

  30. 4 out of 5

    Ellen

    A must-read for all teenagers, female and male, who are beginning to date and anyone else who wants to avoid predators. This book is written for women but easily translates for men and is the best psychology book that I have read - brilliant, concise writing with a focus on self defense. Brown mixes traditional psychology with the latest neuroscience. Fascinating to learn that psychopaths choose outgoing, high-achieving, sensitive and altruistic women because they love to crush strong people. Th A must-read for all teenagers, female and male, who are beginning to date and anyone else who wants to avoid predators. This book is written for women but easily translates for men and is the best psychology book that I have read - brilliant, concise writing with a focus on self defense. Brown mixes traditional psychology with the latest neuroscience. Fascinating to learn that psychopaths choose outgoing, high-achieving, sensitive and altruistic women because they love to crush strong people. The title of this book makes it sound like it's about victims - it's not. It's about understanding psychopaths and their red flags so you can spot them in your personal and professional lives and protect yourself. 1 in 25 people is a psychopath and now neuroscience helps to explain why these people will never change or be anything but evil.

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